Hi There, I'm new to this.
My DW & I are currently going through a tough patch, we normally go through our ups and downs but this is worst than ever before.
What started as a small "flair" up has now developed into a nightmare that has resulted in us being very close to the end.
I just can't seem to talk about anything else other than the arguement we just had or enquiring as to how DW is feeling about us. DW wants me to move out, but is happy for me to stay until Jan and spend Xmas with the kids. ( if it is that bad, would she not want me to move out now?)
In this period, DW wants us to be friends, but says she can never fall in love with me again. DW says she has put up a wall to stop me from "getting in".
But then every so often she will say lets try again? My problem is that as I really don't know what to expect next I don't know how to act. One day I come home and everything is fine, and the next day DW is very sad and doesn't want to be together anymore.
For instances, last weekend we go on very well and I thought all was OK, DW goes away for a couple of days and comes back saying it's all over again?
We are at councilling, which results in either a couple of good days where we try, or a couple of bad days where it brings up bad things about the relationship.
But at the moment I am waiting for and definitive answer.
We both say things we regret in an arguement, but the reasons for the split now appear to be as a result of the current arguement and not because of historical problems, the flair up was the straw that broke the camel's back.
I'm just told I don't understand.
Should I keep my mouth shut and my head down and wait and see, or do what I am asked to do and walk away?