dd1 is nearly 7. she's a mature and sensitive girl, who is pretty emotionally intelligent. she can be a madam and quite bossy, but is generally kind hearted and thinks of other people's feelings.
she has recently palled up with a girl in her class who seems slightly more 'streetwise' than other girls her age. she's obsessed with fashion and clothes and has a clothing allowance- she's 6yo. anyway, her obsession with clothes seems to be rubbing of on dd, who has started to refuse to wear certain things in her wardrobe. it transpired today that the reason why, is that X has made it clear that she doesnt like some items of clothing, so now dd won't wear them.
in addition to this, she has told dd that she is fat. and that she has hairy legs. my poor dd is really beautiful. she is a sturdy sporty build with lovely olive skin. she is not stick thin like her 'friend' and she never will be. i am really concerned that these comments will start to impact on her self esteem (which isnt particularly high, as it is).
the thing is, i have alot of compassion for this 'friend' and her mum-who suffers from depression and has been left by her husband....but i am more concerned about the impact on my own dd.
the mum often approaches me on the playground. i have managed to avoid committing ourselves to a 'playdate' for some time.dd finally went to their house last week. once upstairs in her bedroom, her 'friend' reeled off a load of swear words to dd. dd was pretty shocked and told me as soon as she got home. she said she didnt tell x's mum cos she wouldnt be her friend any more if she did
have told dd to look for other friends and that REAL friends make you feel GOOD about yourself, but i could use some advice on how to handle this. esp as the gril and her mum always approach us on the playground...
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advice please... DD nearly 7- has 'best friend' who keeps putting her down
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noonar · 28/11/2008 17:02
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