I bugged ny hubby's phone and...

[SandyChick]

found him out. Its a long storey and complicated. Something hasnt been right for a while and i suspected something because of a close female friend he has. I bugged his phone and today they have been texting each other. They say its perfectly innocent and that their just close friends. Am i the only one who thinks these texts between my husband and someone elses wife are not innocent???

'Wish i was there, i've been thinking about you alot today x'

'likewise, but there's nothing new there!'

'i miss you x'

'i miss you, lots. being us sucks'

Im heartbroken but at least now i know.

"I have said to him that he needs to be 100% honest no matter how bad so that we can work things out."

And how is bugging his phone 100% honest? If he finds out do you think he will be happy? Will it have been worth it? It seems to me that even having bugged his phone you are no further forward.

It sounds to me like its the early stages of "something happening"

"Being us sucks", is a bit like saying in a different life in a different time we could be together but we cant right now because of our partners (thats how i would read it)

sorry when I say that I mean nothing may have happened yet, its a bit like scoping out what could be?

Isn't that illegal?

Sounds familiar to me, ex swore to me blind that he hadn't done anything with anyone else and was leaving because he no longer loved me.

Turned out he had had an emotional affair at work and had gradually withdrawn from me, I don't think these txts are that innocent!!!!¨

I was guilty (2 years ago, pre marriage and pre baby) of having an emotional affair at work,

Not innocent at all, nearly runined us (me and DP, now DH) and I will never really forgive myself. OM was the instigator but I was swept along in the ego rubbing and general flattery. He ended up saying he loved me and wanted to leave his wife, my DP found these texts. Was awful, will never do anything like that again. Really glad he found them though because it put an immediate stop (on my part) to all of it.

Maybe your DH is being swept along with the attention too?

good insight there pamelat