somebody please tell me what i should do.... basically dps aunty invited us for christmas dinner but they where not eating till 3, which is what time dd1 goes to her dads(and also, imo it is far too late to make the dcs wait to be fed)(the Aunt had offered to bring it forward to 2.30, to which i said thank you very much but its still too late for us and not to worry) so instead of causing problems i popped round to see her and said, if she wasn't offended, we would have dinner here at the normal time (12-1 ish) and then pop to see them for an hour before dropping dd1 off, i thought everything was sorted. dps mum however, was still not happy and was sending dp messages saying she was going t have it out with the Aunt, as it is too late for her own dd(age 2) to eat also, i rung her and asked her to please not get upset on our account, we are fine about it etc. I also mentioned that she offered to bring it forward to 2.30 and also said that the Aunt had mentioned her dh wanted to go to the pub for a couple of hours on thr christmas day(which imo is the real reason they're eating at 2.30 but i didn't make that known) anyway, dps mum must have misheard me and thought i'd said they(the aunt and her dp)where going to pub till 2.30(which i so didn't!)
dps mum said that i did say this to the Aunt, even though dp told her i didn't and she must have misheard me, then we saw his mum yesterday, and she said everything was fine but she still didn't know what was happening christmas day, i just assume that we(me, dp and my dcs) would stick to the original plan of eating at home then going to do presents afterwards and before taking dd1 to her dads.
The Aunty has been making comments on FB about it all, but nothing specifically aimed at me, although she refered to another chat forum on it, which i had a look at and she has written about it saying she is so upset and its all my fault for causing trouble for saying they where going to pub((again)which i didn't!!) and saying she now doesn't trust me and other people on the forum have called me a sh*t stirrer, and her nephew is lucky that himself, his latest squeeze and her kids where invited at all. i am so angry i am shaking. The Aunt also made other comments about me. I can't believe that this has all happened over a misunderstanding and that i am being made out to be such a cow, i tried to make it so i didn't offend her by not going for dinner but their timing just didn't fit in with ours. I really want it all to be cleared up but i can't admit that i have read the forum. I know myself that i haven't done anything wrong but even if i do try to get it all out in the open, how do i know they are not just going to be still thinking i am a trouble causer and being fake to me.
sorry for all the ramblings, any advice would be great, but please be gentle, i am feelnig delicate!