About 3.5 years ago I found out that DP had been texting an ex-girlfriend from about 20 years ago (they'd had no contact over all those years).
She had contacted him via Friends Reunited , they exchanged mobile nos. and started texting.
I found and read some of the texts ( along the lines of "If things had only been different/ really think we could have made something of it/ can't stop thinking about you / I think I still love you". Geographically (thankfully) she lives about 3-4hrs drive away otherwise I really do believe they would have met up and things may have gone further.
I got DP to confess to the texting without actually telling him I'd read a lot of the texts. Told him that he was lucky -that he nearly destroyed our family, if it had of gone further our relationship would be over etc. I pointed out to him that he was, in effect, "in love with" someone he knew when they were both about 18/20 yrs old and how could I compete with his rose-tinted view of this person. He nearly ruined our relationship for someone he hasn't seen or had contact with for 20 yrs FFS.
Anyway that was that although I've had my trust dented massively so occasionally check his text messages and computer history.
Fast forward to now. Hes been on Friends Reunited and searched her name.
I'm now petrified hes going to make contact with her and its going to start all over again.
And yes I know snooping is never a good idea and I was wrong to do that but its been hanging over me all this time that I just knew he was to make contact with her again - I swear he wants to meet/see her again. Its as if theres this unfinished business.
Not sure why I've posted this. Am I right to be worried? Should I do/say something?