Seperation??? Long q sorry

[flooz]

Hi

First time I've posted on here so bit unsure what/how to ask stuff, but could really do with some help.

Me and other half have been married for 5 years, but have known each other since school days, so should have loads to talk about but we don't.

TV is always on, when he's not at work (6 days a week) or watching TV he is at football matches. Our 3 year old hardly sees him as she falls asleep quickly after nursery.

We've had sex 4 times this year, whereas we used to be like rabbits, we don't talk, even though I try, we don't go out together or have any kind of social life and we used to be quite outgoing. Money is tight but not tight enough that we couldn't have time together, and when I suggest it he's too tired or NUFC are playing!!

Is this life with a child? Something we both wanted, and after 2 miscarriages got our wish. Has anyone got any ideas how I can make this work as all I can think is this is it? Am I stuck with this half life?

No this is not life. But remember that you are responsible for your own happiness and you can't rely on others, not even your DP, to provide it. Therefore, try and change your own life first. Do something that you want to do: can you just do something simple like a French class/interior design/DIY course once a week. Just something to pull you out of your normal routine will shake things up. Then you might find that DP notices you and that you are an actual interesting person with a life. Try that first...it worked for me and a number of my friends have found that once they get outside interests, their DP/DHs are all over them. GL

thanks for this, I do already go to aquafit and swimming alone, and he goes to football it's things together I want us to do.

I have just tried broaching the lets talk about why we're unhappy, and he said he's ok and walked out the room!

Am seriously at wits end, I want this to work but am not prepared to bang head on brick wall