Is it unreasonable to expect DP not to shag every female in sight?

[BonGelA]

It's happened twice this year. I'm so livid that I almost feel numb.

leave him ffs what are you still doing with him?

Erm.....

No.

God I'm sorry. YANBU, of course.

numb is good. without emotions clouding your judgement you can kick him out .

I once had a boyfriend like that - believe me they never ever change. This was 20 years ago and I am led to believe he is still at it.

Not every female surely?

Depends what kind of relationship you both think you are in.

If you want both to be faithful you had better tell him but I would have kicked him out after the first shag.

And you are with him because...

depends if you have an open relationship or not. Clearly you don't, get rid.

Poor you

We have children together and I suppose I'm weak. I caught him.

uggh. Sorry

Eh? What, in flagrante??

Out on his ear.

in the garden.

I suppose I should use this as the final kick to move forward.

Not weak. Fucked around by someone whom, I presume, claims to love you. You deserve better, your children deserve better, take the anger and use it .

YANBU. Time to make a change I think. Relate if you are feeling optimistic and changing the locks if you aren't. What a prick. Sorry you are having to deal with it.

what an arsehole

What they were at it in the garden?

It's so cold at the moment too.

sorry bongela it must be really hard for you but you need to take a long hard look at what you want from the realtionship
if you want him to be faithful then you need to work it out with him if that is possible
tbh if it was me he would be out on his ear

He shagged someone else in your garden?

maybe he might like to live in the garden then...

I think you know the answer don't you!!
This is not on - he obviously doesn't give a toss about you.
GET SHOT and find someone else who treats you with a bit more respect!!!

Fimbo!

Bon So sorry... What was the outcome of the first time? How was it dealt with? Do you think you can make it work, or is it a matter of plucking up the courage to get rid? Also, was there a chance that your DCs would have caught him? Because that's a whole extra level of disrespect.