aargh, it is SUCH a petty thing, just need to get it off my chest

[phdlife]

I know I am letting a little thing get to me but aarrgghh - I am pg and my mum has started asking, "how is the baby?" instead of how I am. She did the same when I was pg with ds - for 6 months she didn't once ask me how I was, only the baby and it just makes me . I am her "d"d, fgs, not just a baby-carrier!

there okay hopefully now it's out there in teh internets I'll let go of it, rant over. phew.

congratulations when are you due?

deep breath, smile and ignore!! she is probably so over excited about the baby, she has kind of forgotten her manners

congratulations!

and breathe....

My parents were the same and one day I just blew.I am your dd and the mother to your grandkids I do exsist ya know
They were gobsmacked never did it again and know ask how "we" all are

But ... how is the baby?

Wait till its born - she'll hardly notice you!
I always joke with my Mum that I come third on the pecking order now (ds1, ds2 then me)
It doesn't bother me though, I love it that she is so close to my dc.

I think you should tell her.

"The baby is fine. I, however, am not. [insert list of complaints here]....but most of all I'm pissed off that you never ask how I am."

Follow this with

"How's dad/the neighbour/irrelevant bod?"

My FIL did this too, and I just kept saying "baby is fine - don't you want to know how I am?" until he mended his ways!!!!

I find its worse once the baby is born - my parents never come round to see me any more - its always "we wondered if you were in so we could come round and see our grandson". I am just someone who opens the door and makes them cups of tea!

oh phew glad to know it is not just me!

am sure she will notice me once it's born though - how else will she be able to tell me everything I'm doing wrong?

it'll be worse when the baby is born, i used to walk through the door adn the ds's car seats were immediately taken off me - infact i remember lots of times where i wasn't even looked at, just the babies!!

It is a bit silly, but she won't even know she's doing it i bet. On a positive note at least she cares

i thinkt it is lovely she is excited about the next baby- my 2nd pregnancy was virtualy ignored as everyone was obsessed with dd1!