I'm embarrassed to ask this and i've changed my name but i need some non judgey advice please.

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Dp (soon to be dh) has a problem with anger. He is normally the nicest guy in the world but every few months he just snaps for no reason. Most recently was 2 days ago and unfortunately it was infront of his friends and collegues - hes a bar man. He knows he needs help, he admits he has a problem but we don't know how to get help for him. Where do we start? I don't want to live my life waiting for the next explosion and i know that he is a good man who can beat this. Any advice please?

hard to have an opinion given the little you have said but - from reading what you say - that he knows he has a problem and that he is a good man - it seems from the outside that you need to take the next and very brave step of seeking help - we all have challenges with our personalities and actions - it is hard for him that his challenge is so public - perhaps GP as next step - but given all he is as a man - i hope it does not become the man focus of a happy future - good luck.....

"He's a bar man".
So does he have a problem with alcohol?
Does his anger always come out when he has been drinking?