I'm embarrassed to ask this and i've changed my name but i need some non judgey advice please.

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Dp (soon to be dh) has a problem with anger. He is normally the nicest guy in the world but every few months he just snaps for no reason. Most recently was 2 days ago and unfortunately it was infront of his friends and collegues - hes a bar man. He knows he needs help, he admits he has a problem but we don't know how to get help for him. Where do we start? I don't want to live my life waiting for the next explosion and i know that he is a good man who can beat this. Any advice please?

Would general counselling help? I have read that almost all anger is linked to a sense of fear/loss of control, so if he can work out what triggers it then he may be able to deal with it more appropriately?

Sorry to be personal, fee fre to ignore, but is most of his anger directed at you? You mention it was at work last time, but were you involved? If so, it may be more of a power/control issue than an anger management problem? In which case, general counselling could still help but there will probably be a different focus.

This has been posted twice. Other (slightly fuller) thread here.