I don't ever want anything to do with my parents or siblings again

[betterwithoutthem]

I just need to let these feelings out.

My family fell out with me 18 months ago over nothing and I feel so much happier, fufilled without them.

They have sent nasty letters, made malicious phone calls, turned up on my doorstep (they live a few hours away) shouting abuse at me and DH.

I constantly worry about them turning up at my house or DC's school.

what did they fall out with you about?

Because my 'brother' is violent (an very odd) so I would'nt visit them but they WERE welcome at my house. I did not want my DC exposed to him.

You certainly can't choose your relatives thats for sure.

Nothing like family to drive you demented. Maybe your parents are just feeling very rejected....if they didn't want to know you they would just leave you alone surely.

But they rejected me and my children.

Then I'm confused. Why keep harassing you then? How did they reject you and DC?

'They have sent nasty letters, made malicious phone calls, turned up on my doorstep (they live a few hours away) shouting abuse at me and DH.'

Yes that is entirely justified by them feeling rejected, Starmucks

Betterwithoutthem - are you keeping a log the calls, visits and letters? What they are doing is very, very wrong and you could get the police involved if you wish, this is harrassment.
I know how you are feel, I don't want my ds knowing my brothers as they are a pair of rascist thugs

Do they just harrass you to get a rise out of you? If you carry on ignoring them, they will get bored.

I know what you mean... I have similar issues with a sister. It took about 2 years for her to finally get the message that I wasn't interested in bothering with her again.

BT - where did I say/suggest that it is justifiable behaviour? Said it was a possible reaction.

Poor you. You certainly can't pick your relatives.

If you are concerned that they may turn up at your DC's school then do let the school know the situation. Keep a log of their actions when they turn up at your home.

Starmucks - no it is not. It is a complete over reaction. I honestly cannot believe that family members would act in such a vicious way because they feeling rejected. If they were feeling rejected they would have called up and perhaps confronted the OP but not shouted abuse or send nasty letters. It's that they drove several hours just to abuse the OP and her husband that strikes me as being particularly nasty

Starmucks - I came here to vent an hoped for a bit of support - Thank you lovley ladies who have given that.