How would you trace you dad if you knew nothing about him? Is that even possible?

[leoleo]

No name on birth cert.
Cannot ask mother as she is a compulsive liar.
Asked aunts but they don't know.
Mother has no friends from back then.
Would be curious about other half of me.

so sorry - cant help but will be watching as want to trace my dad too. best of luck x

Have you any old pictures of your mum with friends/boyfriends from when she was younger. Can you trace any school friends of hers through friends reunited and see whether they were still in contact when she had you?

When you say your aunts don't know - do they know any of her old friends/boyfrineds? Any possbilities?

How old was she when she had you?

She was 18.
There aren't any photos. I don't know who she would have been friends with - she never really has friends.
The only aunt that might have know says no and is vague about it.

My nan and grandad adopted me when I was little and me and my younger sister have lived with them as our mum and dad our whole lives but they have died now.

Do you think that aunt is being genuine? Do you have any family memoribilis - letters,postcards, pictures, films ?

Nothing - she was the 'black sheep' of the family - disappears and things. Just does her own thing.
I wont be able to really will I?

Made me think how odd it is that there isn't many memoribilis.

are you male or female?

Hi im in the process of doing this myself.

Has taken me 25 years of asking but finally my mum told me my dads name. Followed by he died 18 months or so ago!!

I have spent days on internet and phone.

Sadly i am awaiting a copy of a death certificate that could be my dad.

Without a name its virtually impossible.

You really need his name.

My aunt knew my dad but she would never tell me anything.

It's heartbreaking and extremely frustrating.

If your nan and grandad adopted yo through the courts your dad should be named in the papers.Social services can help tou track down the paperwork.

I think this would be impossible without some evidence.

Assuming you were legally adopted there may be something in the paperwork your grandparents would have completed.

I'll have a think/look around and get back to you.

Don't give up just yet

my dad is in the same position, he feels now ( getting on a bit too)that he will not know. He hasn't been too worried about it, yet i do think at times he wonders, about that other 'part'.

You may get lucky. You never know.

I am a female.
The thing is she named someone on the birth cert that wasn't the father.
I will chat to family and come back.

Can you find out who the named chap is and see if he knows anything.

That's a good idea actually. How would I do this?
Thank you so much.

if you have a name and area and age of the birth certificate you could start by searching in the local area to where they lived. telephone directories. It will have his occupation if you have full certificate, which may help e.g. army .
Also look for marriage certificates or death certificates for that person. Depends on the name. Did your family mvoe far form where you were born?

If you go to a web site called FreeBMD you can look for birth deaths and marriages.

Presumably your mum new him quite well to name him on the certificate. may be they were at school together? Do you know where se went to school ? Could you check on firends reunited? Does your aunt know anything about him?

Ok I will start tomorrow. See aunt in morning so will chat to her then.
She hardly went to school - they couldn't keep her there aparently.
No we have lived in the same area all their / my lives / life.
The name is quite common though - not like smith but near.
How would I use friends reunited if I'm looking for information that isn't mine.

If you are registered to can look for other schools. My mum looked up her friends on my account.
Living inthe same area for a generatin really helps. The Birth certificate should also have the address registered on the full version. So you could start there.

Good luck. Would be interested in hearing how you go.

Will keep you posted. Thank you WP.

free bmd only transcribed 1837- 1930, so would doubt if it will be of use to you.Use the full GRO indexes.

Your local library will either hold ER - electoral registers or know where they are kept for your local area.

Sorry if you had been male you could have a surname test but not available for females.

Free bmd transcriptions vary from location to location and can include quite recent registrations.