The Snip.......... He or I

[BadgerBadger]

There are obviously many variables, but which of us should take the plunge, ideally. Also, would it be better or worse for one rather than the other for any particular reason?

we have a similar dilemma but think it will me getting "done" as its me who is dead set against having more (we already have 4) - dh would happily churn them out but then he doesnt do the sleepness nights, clearing up sick, running round after them etc etc

I was done - again a day case. My DH was a chicken!

anothe vote for you did the childbirth he gets thesnip - see how he likes it for many people in blue tunics looking at HIS bits for a change. besides this proves his comitment to the process.

I have asked my dh to have the snip more than once as I had two very bad pregnancys, labours etc and do not want to go through that again, he point bank refuses which really gets on my nerves/

As mears said, there can be health implications for the man. There is a strong risk of prostate cancer in dh's family (both his dad and grandad actually have it) and there is a chance that a vasectomy could increase his chances of getting it. I wouldn't risk that, I'd rather have the op myself once our family is complete...

Him! - dh was done in '77 - with no probs - in and out (if you'll pardon the pun!) just had to stop the kids from leaping onto his lap

he doesn't look like an old git yet either. Very liberating too.

dh is currently 'expecting' his 6th child at the age of 59. He had 3 grown up chidlren from a previous marriage. Didn't meet me till his 40s. He had no idea he would have another 3 children and had he had the snip he may not have been able to have more and would probably have lost me. You just never know what is going to happen in the future and a snip always seems so drastic. That is obviously our viewpoint and I am not saying it is 'right' at all. Just wanted to give our story. Good luck with your decision.

when I had my ectopic surgery last Novemeber the consultant (hysterically funny man straight out of Little Britain) when told I already had two children and was only thinking about one more, he said
Well this is your lot, make sure your husband has the chop next dear, you've been chopped enough
Gulp!!!
So much for male solidarity DH said!

when I had my ectopic surgery last Novemeber the consultant (hysterically funny man straight out of Little Britain) when told I already had two children and was only thinking about one more, he said
Well this is your lot, make sure your husband has the chop next dear, you've been chopped enough
Gulp!!!
So much for male solidarity DH said!

piffle -

I can imagine some people being quite offended by those remarks tho! Just shows you can never win!

After baby4 I will have tubes tied as will be having caesarean anyway adn they might as well do it while they're in there!

Dh offered to have it and had it done 5 weeks ago!!!!!!!!! wohhooooo

my husband had the snip a year ago, after our fourth baby was born! And guess what? I have just found out i am pregnant!!!!!!!
We checked on the internet and there is a one in two thousand chance of pregnancy after v.
I am in total shock!!!!!
Just cannot understand how it could happen. I was actually there during his op and watched the whole thing. The surgeon definately cut everything!

Not really relevant to thread but I just had to tell everyone

did he get his sperm level checked a few months later to make sure he wasn't fertile?

I am of the school of thought I had the babies he can undergo the snip.

Just another point into the mixing bowl. I have a few friends who would happily have the snip but their GP won't refer them to even though they have been told by the Gynocologist that to carry any more babies would be dangerous for both them and the baby. I am fairly sure they won't do it until you have reach 30 and have had children because you may change your mind. Both my friends have done both and the GP still won't refer them.

Think men would be more up for V if it DID include a general anaesthetic and a night in hospital. Also I heard the female op was actually less reliable than the Vword? I'd like us both to get fixed just to be on the safe side!
Unfortunately nobody is going to let me get done for some time as I have just been diagnosed PND and am only 28 anyway . Contraception options are so crap - because it's not men that get pg.

Just got this off www.patient.co.uk:
"I have heard that there is an increase in the risk of prostate cancer after vasectomy. Is this true?
The short answer is no. A few years ago there was a 'scare' about a possible link. Since then several surveys have been done and have shown that there is no link between vasectomy and an increased risk of any cancer."

Have you thought of having a mirena coil? Neither dh nor I fancied being sterilised, and I'm ecstatic with the coil.

It was an uncomfortable 5 minutes having it fitted, but not as bad as I'd been led to expect!

After a few months my periods just stopped, and although I didn't like the idea of that to begin with, I have to say that now I think it's fantastic! No pain/hassle and you save a fortune on tampons etc!

A coil lasts 5 years, and provides better protection that sterilisation. Any time you want to change your mind your fertility is back to normal as soon as it's removed. The only downside is that for the first month after fitting it's a bit like having the last day of your period every day (sorry if this is just too much information!)

I'd be totally against any permanent form of contraception. There's too many what ifs? Anything could happen to either of you and later go on to remarry and want more kids. My dad had the snip in 1975, had it reversed when he remarried in 1986 he now has 12 year old son luckily for him reversal worked. However, he was diagnosed with leukaemia 8 years ago and he's convinced it's due to his sperm being seen by his immune system as foreign bodies and as a result contributed to his illness. There may or may not be a link but I'd be really wary of interfering with the natural process of things proven or otherwise.

p.s. totally agree with lowri - i've twice had the coil, concieved my last baby 2 months after having it removed. I'm using it again now, think it's well worth th 5-10 mins indignity having it fitted. Hell, if you've been thru childbirth it's a doddle!

Oliviab posted info saying that there is no link between vasectomy and an increased risk of any cancer...

dh is happy to be snipped.

DW and I want another couple of kids, then I'll have the snip. Much easier op for me, as opposed to her and mine can be reversed if we change our minds.

Personally I couldn't care less about whether dh might run off and want babies with someone else! That's not my problem - the fact is, we are together, we have 3 children and want no more and don't plan on splitting up. I've done my bit, now it's his turn. I'm not trolling along taking responsibility for contraception forever just in case it all goes tits up and he wants kids with someone else!!

He is going for his appt at hospital in April.

It's probably purely anecdotal, this, but the two friends of mine who have had their tubes tied (neither had had kids, incidentally, they are splendidly child-free by choice) have had a few gynae problems since then.