Anybody else's dh/dp a non-talker?

[emkana]

In company dh can be very very chatty indeed, and he was more so in the early stages of our relationship, but now we never seem to sit down for a chat without any distraction (computer, TV, children). I miss it, dh says it's just life.

So you all sit there with a glass of wine, candles on, and have deep and meaningful conversations?

Talk? I remember, we did that once...
We do seem to go through phases were we don't chat about anything more meaningful than what we're having for dinner, but I can occasionally get a conversation out of him.
It is extremely frustrating at times, sometimes I feel like I'm bullying him to talk to me, but a conversation, rather than him playing Call of Duty on the X Box all evening, isn't too much to ask, surely?
At the moment, we really need to talk about what we're doing for Christmas (we has 'issues' with his mother that we need to sort out) I feel like the longer we leave it the more difficult it's going to be, and the more stressed I get. He just wants to ignore it and hope everything sorts itself out, or at the very least wait until nearer Christmas.

Mine's generally playing WOW or asleep on the sofa. Uninterrupted chats are far and few between. I do occassionally lay the table, light a candle and insist on a socialable dinner, but found it was maybe better to keep this just for Sundays. My dh like yours in the life and soul when he's out with other people. it used to drive me batty. I guess I'm just used to it now which is a bit when I think about it.

Oh god, I HATE the meaningful chats! DP's forces hem on me constantly (and Im not joking when I say constantly .) It drives me mad, and us apart tbh.
Im a "bottle it up and deal with it yourself" kind of girl. Healthy, I know. But I was brought up like that.

My Dp is exactly the same, he literally gets jittery if the Tv and Pc are turned off. He refuses to have any kind of "deep and meaningful" but will happily converse about food or Wow or whatever is on telly etc. The other day our electric was turned off for an hour, he said about 5 words to me and spent the entire time wittering nonsense to ds.

He won't tell me what he really thinks about anything, he won't staste his needs or ask me to do anything for him. Tbh I'm just about done, when you have more meaningful relationships with people you talk to at the bus stop every day, you know your relationship is in trouble.

Yep my DH is a non talker - it drives me mad. I see other coupls just chatting about anything and everything and i get really jealous. My Dh just keeps everything to himself and doesn't tell me what he is thinking, feeling etc etc. I hate it when people ask me what he thinks about something as most of the time I have no idea. He is a great Dad but I really miss just have idle chat about anything or in depth chat or actually any sort of chat!!! I've bought it up so many times and he says he will try but it never changes. I think it is actually making me more shy and quieter as well now, which I never used to be. He isn't even very chatty in social situations so I feel i have to do all the talking which is just a strain.

Kittyfloss - mine is the same with the TV/PC. They are ALWAYS on if he is in the house. When I lived on my own I never put the TV on unless there was something I specifically wanted to watch.

When I get home with dd after school, I never switch it on unless she actually asks to watch something. Quite often she will play happily, while I get dinner ready and we just have a chat. You can guarantee though that the minute Daddy is home the TV goes straight on. It drives me bananas.

I used to have a vision of us all sat at the table together eating an evening meal - now that dd is bigger. I've given up!

my dh is the same have no idea what he is thinking most of the time keeps himself to himself

We are like that, too. It doesn't really bother me though, tbh...