Why am I so introverted? I hate this!

[Pawslikepaddington]

Have been invited on a date. An old friend (that I have no feelings for whatsoever) popped round last week and things got a bit steamy (I had wine and so let him kiss me ), he asked me out on a date, I said yes and got really excited, then he came round last night for a cup of tea and nothing. I do not fancy him at all, cringed inwardly when he kissed me, am just not interested in the slightest. The problem is this happens with almost every single man I meet. I cannot get interested in them, and the ones I do rather fancy are happily settled (so I don't fancy them, just admire them from afar) or are not interested as I have dd (I am in the 20's age bracket). I have now been single for 5 years, I think I am getting too picky! No one does it for me though, or at least no one who does it to me IYSWIM. How can I change my perception on this?

I know Kally. I know what you;re saying. Just sounds like Paws needs to stop wasting time on this loser and stop worrying that it's her being introverted or whatever (it's not, it's just that he's a loser ) and meet someone nice and mature.

I agree an older fella might be a better bet. But then I used to always go out with older blokes and loads of them were immature losers too! Maybe I'm not the best person to ask about this....

You see, we train them into maturity and they get whisked away by miss size 8! And she isn't as naggy as the work has already been done. We need to become miss size 8! !

Yes, IME, even the PhD students often don't have much experience of the 'real world'. God, I'm making such sweeping statements and I'm sure there are lots of people who don't fit into this sterotype.

Probably best to leave the lecturers well alone! I think there can be something a bit dodgy about the power relationship between lecturer and student. I bet there are plenty of nice students around though who aren't too immature. What about other mature students?

I don't think you need to become miss size 8. I just think you've been out with a few dud blokes. Your luck will change though .

Ha ha, the word mature is deceiving! It means over 21! No, there are a load of nice PhD guys who have had great life experiences and are really interesting (and go to cambodia and places so will get out of my hair for some of the time!) I will do that-I will seek out the well travelled PhD students and see what is on offer, and if nothing then I will wait until I have a job, and meet more "grown up" grown ups. I love your sweeping statements Rosa as they are true!

Had a thing about my tutor's (26 year old) son too-still go weak at the knees when I see him-think that may be even more disasterous than a lecturer!

Yay! God, don't wait until you've got a job...I didn't say things got better once I left university !
Well travelled PhD guys sound like a good bet.
Let us know how you get on

Oh you are lovely! It will happen with time!