Money

[pen28]

I'm fed up with my job. Teach part time and not enjoying it any more. Have DD at school/after school club and DS at nursery and sick of shelling out for some else to look after them while I work at something I'm not enjoying. I know all working mums feel like this from time to time but with me it's a permanent state of affairs and here's the twist - DH has stacks of money squirrelled away, enough to pay off mortgage. My salary covers child care and mortgage so if DH paid mortgage off, I wouldn't have to do job I hate. But he refuses to even discuss it. Is it unreasonable to expect him to do this? Help!

[MrsTittleMouse]

I can see both sides here - all of our money is joint and any inheritance that either of us has inherited has gone into our house-deposit fund. Neither of us would have dreamed of squirrelling it away for ourselves.

On the other hand, both of us came to that decision. I can't see DH being too happy if I'd have told him how he was going to spend the money that he had on the death of his beloved grandparents. Especially as in effect you would be using it to live on and not for "the future".

[jamescagney]

Quattrocento you sound like Xenia! (whom I adore btw!)

[Littlefish]

I think that's the thing isn't it MrsTitleMouse - it's coming to a decision that you are both comfortable with.

I really think that the op needs to sit down with her dh and discuss all the options, not just the option she wants.

Pen28 - you say that your salary covers the mortgage and childcare. Does DH pay a similar amount into the joint account? Presumably that pays all the other living expenses?