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How to reject kindly...?

32 replies

MrsSnape · 10/11/2008 20:37

I posted last week about a young bloke supposedly telling his grandma that he liked me, she told me ... caught me off guard completely and put me on the spot and I may have accidently given the impression that I was pleased about it (when I was actually totally gobsmacked and unsure of what to say).

She finished by saying "is that ok with you?" and I just mumbled "yes"

Anyway I can't avoid the bloke and I decided to just deal with it by ignoring the fact that she'd said anything and totally act normal. I saw him tonight and this worked well...all totally normal.

Well, I got home and immediately got a text off his grandma saying he now wants to ask me out for a drink but is too shy to ask me then the mobile started ringing ... it was her ... I ignored it and then the house phone started ringing!

It's bloody mental, it really is.

Thing is, I DON'T want to upset him and I know he has a grading on Wednesday (as do I) and we're both nervous about that. If I upset him now, all hell is bound to break loose but this mad woman will just not let it drop.

What can I do?

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lou33 · 11/11/2008 18:17

just tell her no thank you, then contact him and say you want him to make sure she does not get in touch again

MrsSnape · 12/11/2008 13:12

Well I text her yesterday afternoon to say i wasm't ready for relationship yet and then managed to avoid her all day and so I got home from the school run.... later on last night she phoned twice (house phone and mobile both twice) and then sent a voice mail starting with a sarcy "is something wrong with your phoneS or what? aaaannnyyywaay....."

She then went on to say that I could meet him at her house if I'm shy?!?! what an absolute pyscho. I have to work with him tonight too, she's making this very cringeworthy and awkward

OP posts:
MrsSnape · 12/11/2008 13:12

I can't contact him as I don't have his number.

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lou33 · 12/11/2008 16:14

just tell her you are not shy, just not interested

quinne · 12/11/2008 17:07

Just tell her that its a kind offer although you are used to men asking you out without their grandma's help. However you are not looking for a relationship at the moment but you will call her if you ever change your mind.

annaje · 12/11/2008 17:22

I would have a word with him directly - because she isn't getting the message.

ToughDaddy · 12/11/2008 22:37

nice try young man- wish i had made more use of my grandma when I was 21

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