New man snores

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This is ridiculous, but it's become a massive issue for me.

I have met and become close to a lovely man. He's kind and funny, gets on with Dc's, takes care of me without being patronising, all those cliches.

We haven't spent the night together yet (another reason he's lovely, no pressure at all) but god does he snore. I only know cos he slept downstairs and I could hear him upstairs.

I need my sleep - how do you cope sleeping (or trying to) with a snorer?

shove them in the back and try and fall asleep before they start again lol

seriously tho, sorry would he wear one of those nose strip things that are supposed to stop you snoring?

You can try nose strips but these are only of short term benefit. He needs to be medically assessed.

If he's sleeping downstairs he needs to be on a bed rather than the sofa as sofas can also cause back problems. They are not designed to be slept on.

If he's that loud as well then he ought to be seeing his GP re his snoring (he likely does not realise how loud he is). He should seek medical advice as he may have sleep apnoea.

Thanks attila, it was only a one off, as he'd had too much wine to drive home.

If it happens again, DH used to be a terrible snorer and I used a gentler version than Mrs M. Discovered that he snores only if he lies on his back. I just tell him to roll on his side and snuggle up behind him, to stop him rolling back, or if I am on my side, reach over and grab a hand, so that he snuggles up beside me. Works ever time.

He needs to lay off the wine, i snore like an old man if i drink too much, i dont snore if i'm sober

sorry i didn't use them on x, i have seen them on tv and wondered if they would work for op

Yes,DH used to snore only on his back/if he had a drink, but new man knows he has a problem. I think that may be one reason he's put no pressure on re staying the night TBH.

He says it was a contributing factor to the break-up of his marriage

How sad. My dh's cricket mates had told him after going on tour that no one would ever marry him However, they obviously hadn't tried nibbling his ear and snuggling up .

Hope that you can work it through together. There are little springs you can buy to put up his nostrils, which keep the passageways open, if the snuggle up approach or strips don't work.

Dh always snored terribly. Like when camping he had people yelling outside the tent for him to shut up at 3am.

He eventually went to the Dr - he stops breathing 85 times an hour due to sleep apnoea. Now he has a CPAP machine, and there is silence in our bedroom.

He should get himself to the GP and get investigated - snorings no joke and osa can take many years off your life

Oh I feel for you, my man is a bad snorer, its so loud, like a train, constantly. He is moving in end of nov and I am dreading it as I cant sleep next to him. He has been to the gp and got a nasal spray but that hasn't worked. I can totally see how this wrecks relationships :/

i thought you said CRAP machine

Shoe on the other foot here. I snore and DP doesn't.

The worst thing is, he once said in the very begining whilst discussing things that annoy or humour us, 'I think its funny when people snore'... (we hadn't spent a night together at that early stage)!

I protested that it's a thing a lot of people do and its not soooo bad...

Well, the first nights I hardly slept, I was so afraid of drifting off and revving up...

He is a light sleeper and I found the more I tried to stop myself drifting off the more slipping off snores I would involuntarily make! . It's not an easy one to deal with and best just mention it and make light of it. (I wish DP would)... It's not easy trying to unsnore sleep.

(He obviously knows by now... but sod him)

I'm a snorer too. So loudly I have woken myself up on several occasions including once on a packed train. I have been known to wake the whole house including 2 teenagers.

DP gets fed up and frequently threatens to sleep downstairs (but hasn't done so yet). I wouldn't blame him.

Reducing alcohol intake and losing weight (if indicated) can help.