My dad is dying and has made his will....

[FeelBadAboutThis]

...and I know its his money to do what he wants with, etc. And I know I shouldn't care as I'm obviously very upset about him dying and wold rather I had no money and he was going to pull through.

But I still can't help been pissed off. He's young to be dying and hadn't made a will so he called a solicitor to his bedside yesterday to sort one out. He's leaving all his money (nearly 200k) to his girlfriend who he's been seeing just over a year. She's well off after her divorce and frankly I think she has her own wealthy parents who she will inherit a lot from when they die.

I'm getting left about 20k.

I just feel that I would never leave money to some boyfriend over my children if I were in his position.

I know I probably sound like a self centred cow, sorry. Never thought I'd be bothered about something like this till it actually happened.

for you , you have every right to feel bad!
IME death and wills and money brings out the very worst in people!
No advice TBH - how ill is he (and so sorry for you)can you try and talk to him in a neutral way...but very difficult!

Are you in need of this money?

I can understand why your feeling a little unloved by this but at the end of the day what he does with his money is for him to decide.
maybe you over estimate just how well off his girlfreind is?

I don't feel I can talk to him at all. He's very ill and in a lot of pain. Probably only has a couple of days left.

I don't want our last conversation to be me saying I disagree with his will.

The money would make the world of difference to us. We're a lot better off than some people I guess, we can pay the bills and heat the house. But no holidays and a 12 year old car. No pension either which worries me.

But its not really about the money though is it?? Its about being made to feel second best
When my beloved gran died - her will had been writtent for many years leaving a generous sum each to me and my sibs (10K) and the remainder of the estate to my father (in excess of 100K)...
My father is a prick always was always will be, he treated his mother with disrespect and unkindness , he lived in a different country - I did everything for her...OUT OF LOVE AND RESPECT...but it WAS me that took her out when she was able, that had her for xmas, that bought her little nik naks, that cut her toenails, that took my DD1 to her twice a week every week for 3 years when she became frail and bedbound, that held her hand as she died, that sorted her finaces out, her estate, sold her flat...in all that time my father visited twice (the second time only because she broke her hip and I said he should before she died).....
And then he had the cheek to chase me to sort out the estate
I didnt do any of those things for her money, I did it because I loved her and wanted to and cherish those last years I had with her
BUT that doesnt negate that I felt my father did NOT deserve her money and to feel a bit left out and not though of all I had done...
So I know how you feel - but it is hard to say without SOUNDING like it is about the money when in fact it isnt really

Feelbad, try not to think about or discuss the money at a time like this. Concentrate on being with him and make the most of his last moments with you.
Memories are precious, you can always make money in the future but not more happy memories with your Father.

Its crap because you cant help sounding like its about the money but macdoodle is right it is about respect and love. My mum is leaving everything to her grandchildren and leaving my generation out of it.

Personally I think it petty to make a point through your will!

I agree. Its like having the last word.

I just think that as there is so little feelbad can do about this she could concentrate on doing the right thing and that wil make her feel better about herself in the future.