Is there anyone out there who has a problem free life?

[gosh2]

After reading everyones problems, and seeing how people are helping me deal with my own (going back to work prob) I just wondered I bet there are some glamourous mums out there with not a care in the world?! I ask the next part quite humorously.

Do you drop the kids off at school (prep school) go and get your highlights done, see your personal trainer, have lunch in some amazing place, shop (don't have to "hide" it when you get home) etc See your DP/DH every night, all lovely? Have children who sleep ALL night! and never teethe at night! - or are never ill.

Is there anyone like that? Or are we all muddling along doing bits of the above?

As soon as you think you have a problem free life, one pops up and smacks you round the face!!!

gosh2 - I thought you were meant to be "working" from home?

Yes, Gosh2 - that sounds exactly like me!

Oh no, hang on a minute, that's just me on Fantasy Island...

I'd like to introduce myself......my name is Victoria Beckham, I have a gorgeous husband called.......

I think it probably safe to say that most of us stuggle and have to live in the real world and can only dream of lives like you describe.
By the way I love the Beckhams and am guilty of buying any magazine with Mrs B on the front.

But I watched the programme on Essex Women about a month ago, and each week they looked at different ones, I think one lot were SAHM and that is all that they did - hairdressers-lunch-shop- pretty much like Vic Beck.

I do like the B's very family orientated.

I too am a VB fan, must admit though that I used to think she had it easy, but with all those kidnapping threats, it must be pretty awful.

Agree that once you sort once thing out, another one pops up

I think lifes a roller coaster...you have good/bad and indifferent spells. Who remembers the interview with the then recently engaged Fergie and Andrew, and her comment we are a normal couple and normal problems like finding a place to live

TBH, that kind of life sounds like hell to me (well, the prep school, highlights, trainer, shop bit - obviously the good sleeping is nice!).

I think everyone has problems - if you have an easy life you still find things to worry about. even if its which coffee to buy.

sorry all you grammar fans, that should be 'it's'.

I'm not a VB fan, and I will not be surprised when their marriage falls apart. OK - I said it - feel free to lambast me. I am a Sadie Frost/Jude Law fan - and was really sad to hear that they are having problems, although it seems they will work them out. Seems as though Sadie experienced Post-partum depression, like a lot of us. I hope they make it. But basically I think life could be really good as Gosh2 describes it, but it doesn't necessarily mean that those folks whoever they are, are happy, although life certainly would be easier. . .

okay - i do not really have too much of those that you mention. I do not look all lovely when my dh gets home from work. BUT I do have great days with my little one. She has always slept through the night - helped I think in the first part by nasal gastric feeds every four hours when first home from hospital. She is a content little baby and although we have the odd cry when she is tired - not much else. She has not started teething yet - although we have had the dribbles and the chewing of the gums. So this could all change. I have a wonderful husband who probably does all the worrying for both of us. I am a SAHM and he can't wait to get home and spend time with us as a family.

I really don't have too many cares in the world as such.

Having said that in the grand scheme of things we have been through it and come out the other end. At 20 weeks pregnant - baby diagnosed with heart defect. Born by emergency caesarean 10 days early as routine scan shows my placenta not working properly. At three days old baby diagnosed as having down syndrome. At 2 months old baby undergoes two major open heart surgeries within three days. In those three weeks in hospital she also sufffered complications from surgery. I also know we have a tough road ahead of us.

Now the biggest thing I have learnt in all of that is not to sweat the small stuff.

Eidsvold - thanks for your message. You are absolutely right re: sweating the small stuff. God bless you and your family!

I saw the Essez women show as well. They were rich and had time to kill but they weren't very intelligent ! I'd rather be clever than thick and rich......not that I'm especially clever but I do have a few brain cells knocking around up there. They all struck me as superficial, vacuous and bubble headed !!!

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I'm hopeing that the world you descibe, will be mine, when my boys go to school in September.
I keep imagining all these things I'll be able to do (on a monday & friday, my days off).
I bet though that, by the time I've caught up on the housework,it'll be time to collect them, and all this pampering I'm planning will not happen.

Yeah, but Mrs Perfect's husband is shagging his secretary and she knows all her friends are bitching about her...

I look a yoghurt stained fright right now and ds woke three times last night (he NEVER wakes) with teething and a cold. I am behind with my work (too much Mumsnet) and my newish kitchen laminate floor has come up and got chipped and looks horrible. I haven't saved anything for my tax (aaargh!) and have no pension so will live in utter poverty in old age and have to make ds work down a mine instead of swanning about at uni, but I really don't have any problems. And I do get my hair done from time to time - sometimes free! Oh, and I had a trainer for a few months and looked exactly the same and didn't lose a millimetre or a lb. So that was the end of that.

Jac34 now you are back on line, how did your Valentines w/e go? you in Rome. You see you ARE that woman I have been describing!!

Now I feel pretty guilty for having more or less a problem free life - yes, my DS was born with severe problems, (now resolved, thank God), yes, my DH had an affair several years ago but, hopefully, I've managed to put it behind me ..... generally, and comparing myself to many people on Mumsnet, I think I do have a pretty good life (I did have my highlights* done this week whilst DS was at the childminder & often go out for leisurely lunches!!), I am a SAHM (by choice), I have no financial worries, I have a lovely home, plenty of friends & lots of hobbies - many of which involve interacting with others which I think is so important in life ....... I feel very, very blessed (and I have mumsnet!!).

*but of course I only need highlights because of covering up the grey!

As Eidsvold says, I also have learned not to sweat the small stuff.

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My best friend has the life that you describe gosh2 ... she is beautiful, has a partner who has retired at the age of 32 due to making millions in software, has gorgeous hair and nails ALL of the the time, has a lovely one year old who never cries and sleeps from 7pm to 8 or 9am, has a cleaner, has a nanny 2 days a week so is able to do a course in interior design and go to the gym and do child free shopping ...
She is also one of the nicest people I know ... really genuine and kind ... not a nasty bone in her body ... we have been best friends since we were 10 and I am so lucky to have her in my life ...
She got married on the 28th December ... the whole works ... dress that cost thousands, top venue ... entertainment was a very well known band ... 4 bridesmaids (I was one) whose outfits were at least 500 quid each ... professional make up artist who works with stars - top top knotch do and a stunning bride and beaming groom ... the fairytale ...
9 days after the wedding she was called home from her honeymoon as her mother was ill. She (the mum) had gone to the doctor 4 weeks before with a pain in her tummy and two days after the wedding found out she had inoperable cancer. She died before my friend was able to get back in time, less than a month after she had first gone to the doctor...
Basically ... my point is that money cannot stop bad awful things happening and I know that my friend would give it all away if she could have had some more time with her mum ...

Would love a problem free life, put ewes and lambs out into the glorious sunshine yesterday, and what is it bloody doing today?, p***g from the heavens, lambs miserable, ews miserable, DH in constant moan girn moan mode, my hands are hacked and sore, my hair resembles a deflated football, my face is the colour of an overripe beetroot, my food intake has nearly ground to a halt, my caffeine intake has risen above all possible government guidelines for consumption!, and to make matters worse, there are wrinkles appearing from I don't know where, looks like a pot of Nivea instead of a few blobs tonight then!!

Ditto Fairy! Plus I usually start to worry if it takes a while another problem/worry pops up and hits me!

Gosh2,
Had a wonderful time in Rome, saw everything we wanted to see, had a great hotel(TV in the bathroom), and my parents coped really well with the boys.
Really enjoyed it !!!

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