huge fight with dh, how to make it up with him, when hes not even speaking....

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had huge row with dh this morning, which involved him storming out for most of day. sigh. he can be so bloody nasty when he wants and this time i gave as good as i got. infact prob worse.
so now i'm passed angry, and hes returned home. but hes still very angry and refuses to speak to me/be in same area and has told me to f off. good good lovely atmosphere here....... so now hes sulking in the bath, which he can stay in for hours. i'm kinda stuck with what to do now. he was unreasonable this morning, but i'm sorry we fought over it, and i know i was unreasonable back in defense. shall i just leave him alone? what would you do?

At the beginning of the thread I was going to suggest just saying 'I'm really sorry.' I find it kind of undermines my dh's anger and even if I'm not 100% sorry and we have alot to thrash out it helps to break the ice (usually not immediately though)

but then I read what he said to ds so my alternative tactic would be make the most reasonable, calm and self-righteous speech in the world about 'however angry you are with me, please never behave like that in front of the children. When you are ready to talk like an adult I think we need to sort this out.

My dh is sooo lucky to have me!!

poor you dq - I'm sorry you're having such a tough night . Doing that in front of your DS is outrageous - how confusing and upsetting for DS. If at possible I'd do what the others suggest and try and get DS and yourself out of there for a bit until things calm down. (((hugs)))

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DQ, just seen this.
Hope everything is OK for you now. If he is still being an arse, wait til morning and then see how things are. Quite often, with me & DP, we see how silly we have been rowing, after a nights sleep. Saying anything now may just flare it all up again - the last thing you need at the moment. xx

yes hes still pretending i'm not here. but has gone to bed. all big children in bed, just me and little dd up. honestly, its wrecked my entire weekend. bastard.
nice to have you ladies on side tho wonder if he knows theres a whole sisterhood against him!
I stoppped being nice and pretended he wasnt there also. not really my style, but thought i'm not having another row! so i did what he was doing. which resulted in him going to bed. bet he doesnt speak to me when he leaves for work tmorrow. and thats a shame, he has to go to court tomorrow, to stand up against some berk who tried to diddle the company, and he could of done with some supportive words. ah well.
please tell me its not just my dh whos so bloody stubborn and sulky???? he doesnt do it often but he really can do it better than any child i've met!

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Oh men do the silent sulky thing so well!!!
My guess is that he will want someone to talk to tomorrow night or at least will want some love & attention from you. I'm sure he will be OK tomorrow. If not, make him a cup of tea, be nice when he gets home & wait for him to say sorry.

thanks ladies, dior thats what i'm going to do, when hes leaving in the morning, altho i'm fairly sure he will be blanking me still, i will wish him good luck and such. even if he IS an arse i still want him to be okay, i do love the berk.
hey george, hows it going? our other thread is QUIET!

We dont row very often, but when we do it is usually once every year or so and it is pretty unhappy for a few days.

I do remember once, the morning of a big meeting saying that I was prepared to discuss the issues that evening, but that in the iterim, I wished him good luck at the meeting. I then walked off with head held high and got in to the shower.

He was putty that evening

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hope so dior, cause if he says something awful i shall be sad all day.........
LGJ, well i hope hes putty!!!! and ...omg you only row once a year??lordy!!! we row- ina silly bicker kinda way a few times a week. BIG rows like this one has turned into, every four months or so.....i dont like to count!

Oh no ,we bicker all the time, but is only suitcases at dawn and rings on the dresser once in a very blue moon. If he was any more laid back he would be in a coma. Just as well as I can be a stress monkey.

Sounds like me & DP DQ. Every few months we have a BIG barny then all calms down and love each other dearly for months! Sure it's healthy really!! Good luck tomorrow, sure it will be fine. Bake him something lovely & I'm sure he will be putty in your hands.

I'm camping out on the "just sat here waiting" thead at the mo as it's been a tough week. Will poke my toe onto the other thread tomorrow I think..........

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How goes it DQ

Dqueen - how r u? understand why you dont want to talk about it on other thread so popped over to see if all is well.
i hope so, you've got enough on your plate. stay away from those blasted sticks