DH and I spend NO time together, I 'm on my own EVERY night, WWYD? I'm down!

[seriouscase]

Okay, it's a bit late to be starting this but it is on my mind so much.
DH works every night and most of the weekend. We spent no time together, we have nothing in common anymore, I feel like I am just here to look after his children when he is not here (which is a lot, lol) He comes home at crap-o'clock and most nights sleeps on the sofa, he says he can't sleep.
Out sex life is terrible/non-existant.
Watching things like 'The Family' made me feel so sad because we do not have a loving relationship anymore. I think he probably does love me but it is not enough anymore because of the loneliness and isolation.
It is not normal to be married but on your own every night is it?
Sometimes I can deal with it and tell myself to get over it. But sometimes I want out and feel like a single parent anyway. But I don't want to do that to my kids.
I lost a parent recently which doesn't help things but DH has been no support, I don't think he has even given me a hug.
Sorry, long.

sorry i hav elittle advice other than, you can leave ( or he can)

if his job is the problem other than the man. discuss thiswith him

If he could change job that would probably help. We discussed this earlier this week. He can't, he is tied to it just now and with the credit crunch and all that we are stuck.

DP has recently started work in job that encompasses a lot of shifts, I understand this but I expect other times to be made up for.
Can you find times he is not working to set up regular time together? It doesn't have to be conventional, just workable.

We have tried to work a bit on this, maybe I should give it a fair chance. I just feel I have been living with this ridiculous set up for so long (he doesn't get holidays either, self employed) I need something to change. When we are in the house together we seem to be at loggerheads, which doesn't help.

Going to bed, back tomorrow,

Do you love him? How would you feel if you split up and he ended up with someone else? Is it more his job/hours he works rather than him that's the problem.

Is there anyway you could have one day a month, or even just an evening out, to concetrate on your relationship?

seriouscase-

Sorry to hear.

sleeping on the sofa is not a good way to raise his energy level. If he is struggling to sleep then get him jogging or something like that. Will improve his sleep and raise his energy level during the day.