Any chance of a confession to put my head straight?

[N8sofie]

Will my husband (we're separated) ever confess to affairs that I think he had while we were living abroad for three years? SO many details have come back to me in the past few days, crystal clear its unbelievable like i've woken up. Actually, it's not that i've woken up, I think I was just more naive back then. I have confronted him before but he would deny everything. Really all I've got is more circumstancial evidence, no proof, however, it is all text book affair type behhaviours. I would really him to put me in the picture about what really happened while we were there. I have taken so much s**t about being mad, imagining things etc.

if you have already split up then don't allow it to bug you any longer.
just accept that yes he probably did and move on.

there is no point putting yourself through teh pain of an actua;l confession.

Hello HRH,
I don't think a confession would be so painful, it's the not knowing for sure that is painful, always has been. I am left suspecting instead of knowing iyswim

WooooSaaaaa

Little small insignificant person, big wide wonderful world.

WoooSaaaaa

I have the same thoughts about mine, he denies all but as I discovered he was having it away with someone I don't doubt he did it before that. He says that he had not had sexual relations with this woman he is now with and he had only recently got that freindly with her, but as he moved straight in with her I think there is a strong possibility it had been going on for a while .

But I am the better person so fuck it!!!

but at the moment although you think he has cheated there is stil a small part of you that can cling to teh belief that he hasn't.

finding out for certain will be incrdibly painfull..even if you dont realise it now.

sorry, but if he hasnt confessed yet, and the reltionship is actually over, why would he do so now?
i think you need to concentrate on YOU and letting this go... move on, hes not worth any more of your energies.

skramble -not necessarily. i moved in with dp pretty darn quickly and then we deliberately got me pregnant too within a few months... his fairly recently ex wife was suss that id been around for longer but i really truly hadnt. it happens. sometimes.

Oh my God.

I offer thee this day
all the capuccinos I shall say

I need

uniting them with what was done in the earthly bit about the oven where they do the baking.'

ugh. Religion eh? It's like soks.

all minced-pied up>>

Skramble, so you don't know for sure either... I know what you mean by 'there's a strong possibility', that's what i find so maddenning.

I want him to know that I know.

LadylaGore, yes I will have to drop it, let it go of course, but with my thinking/ruminating over the past few days I felt i was getting closer to real evidence!

HRH, yes it would be painful, but I would still like to know after being told I was mad etc

Nah she was wooing him with home baking for a fair few months , whatever, she is a silly little bint. I revel in the fact she is 10 yrs younger than me but after a year with him she looks 10 yrs older than me now and is now twice as wide, forgive me but I had reason to hate her before she was with exH and the fact she shagged my them H when he was still with me only adds to it, I now have the plesure in knowing my kids get to do baking with her while exH works whent hey are at his house, sweet isn't it .

Sorry a bit of a hijack, just needed a rant after having to see exH tonight.