a childish sisterly moan

[cheesesarnie]

i hate moaning about family but would prefer to moan on here than say something as dont want to cause upset/hassle.
2 of my sisters live an hour and half away and work lots(call them a and b).1 lives 20 minutes away from me and work lots(she can be c).we dont all get together that often as busy but we arranged to have girly night where a and b live-go for a meal and night out then stay over and shopping the next day.a and b arranged night off and told c to tell me its on saturday(this was a week ago apparently).she didnt tell me.she told her friend instead and invited her.now theres a sisterly night out with one missing(me) and no room at to stay and as weve all only just found out its to late for me to arrange anything.im just .im probably being silly and childish though

moan whinge moan whinge.

You are not being silly and childish. Anyone would be hurt. That's awful of your sister. What do A and B say about it, do they know what she did? You should go anyway, let C get a B&B, as it is her fault there isn't enough room.

a and b are shocked and apparently dont get on with the friend(i dont know her)but cant do much about it as c has bit of a attitude(god we sound like teenagers dont we!)theyve asked her why shes not mentioned it to me(it was a that mentioned it today on phone and that was first i knew)she said it was too late notice for me!i cant be bothered to cause an atmosphere by saying anything.

a and b should postpone, saying that they'd planned a sisters' get-together and can't do that without you. c can go out with her friend. and next time a/b should make sure they phone/text/email both of you - no biggie, surely?!

i'd be very upset and annoyed if my sisters did that to me!

i know but they both find it really hard to get night off work so its night likely to happen anytime soon .
no its no biggie im just feeling sorry for myself

I'd send email to C saying

"Just heard of FAMILY get-together. Sounds great. It is a little short notice but I think I might be able to make it. Are you driving over there - can I have a lift? Looking forward to it. See you Saturday "hopefully!). Love cheesesarnie"

good idea from quinne. i mean, can they really not squeeze in another person overnight? although, if nobody is making the effort to include you i don't blame you for now wanting to go!

i just reseived this email on facebook from c(my status said i was sad)-

'Why are you sad? Is it cos of Saturday? I was going to phone you and ask if you wanted to come but Mum told me that she thought you were looking for a babysitter on Saturday so i assumed your busy.
We can go down there whenever you want. You just hadnt mentioned it so I didnt think you wanted to go
xxx'

this is my replay but havent sent yet and dont know whether too-

i'll mention it now then.thanks for telling me about the night out we were going to have(the one i suggested where the four of us got together),you knew last week apparently-no not busy probably going to wash my hair or something.have a great time.

i dont know-all just a bit silly.but she still could phone.i dont want big drama or fall outs just feel let down-which is probably ott?i realised last night i think she didnt say anything on purpose because she wanted her friend to go and if she asked me like she was supposed to then there wouldnt be room for her friend.

No, don't send that. Say,
"a & b asked you to invite me. Even if I couldn't have come, you should have given me the choice. If you really thought I had plans, maybe I would have changed them. This has really upset me. And it's not fair on a & b who now have to spend a "sister" evening without me and with someone they don't like".

That's outrageous! Appalling - you just have to learn from it and organise things like this directly with a and b, never through c.

tbh if I were you I wouldn't want to do things with c at all, so I wouldn't go. Let her go, let a and b tell her how they feel about it, and let her stew.

like that bling.i do think i wont reply though-if she cant be bothered to phone then i cant be arsed with email arguement.i dont want to fall out over it.i think snowleopards right-i'll let her stew..
your right-i dont really want to go now even if i could.

bad sister! They'll have rubbish night without you and c will look like a right pillock.

Is c younger than you ?

yes bad sister.all younger.im bit pissed and having a great time home alone with wine twiglets and james taylor.