are you touchy-feely with your partner?

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we're not really. it's sort of worrying me after watching how affectionate they are in 'the family'

cosmo-yes I feel that

Oh god if I start cuddling him he'll want sex feeling...which is a barrier.

Just thinking from rading other posts - parents were not touchy feely - never said i love you but know for a fact that they do - both my parent would be there for me if I ever needed it and I would have no problem contacting them if I was in trouble, but I am probably a bit OTT with my kids - constantly tell them I love them and always trying to hug them kiss them, so I suppose I want with them that I did not get - even though I know my parent love me and are there for me so what does all the physical affection mean? Is it not better to know that your parents partner are there for you no matter what.

Sorry went off on a ramble there......

ggirl - thank you for the reassurance - why is this so hard now? I often tell him I just want hugs etc.. but then when he does it and I do not shrink away ( cause I am not stressed or busy) I think to myself Oh I like this and it end up with us having sex - so I know I am sending the completely wrong signal!! God I love my kids to bits but they do make relationships more difficult!

yes you're right cosmo
things change so much when kids are around..gets even worse when they are teens and stay up later than you.

I too want my kids to feel more relaxed with the physical and verbal loving (if that doesn't sound too american).
I still find it embarassing to say I love you to my parents...in fact hardly ever say it which worries me for some reason.

I think I want my kids to feel able to say I love you without feeling embarassed like me.

thats what worries me my kids say it all the time - and I worry that I have drummed it into them so much they say it cause they know we want to hear it - I keep telling hubby I want them to see affection which means them just seeing hugs etc. without the whole I thought it was leading to more. DH always says how he use to see his parents lying on the sofa cuddling and I am thinking obviously your Da could cuddle without expecting more so why can't you?

sea just gradually make the change

i make an effort sometimes

very touchy feel here- my PILs call us Match dot com!