DH wants to try viagra...

[Massimo]

Can anyone shed some light on what viagra achieves? I'm guessing on top of not performing foreplay it doesn't give you desire or passion - I'm thinking just an uncomfortable hardon? Is this right? Is it more physical or psychological? Is it worth trying once?

Is it reckless of him to take it when I think he does not suffer from erectile dysfunction?

It would save me alot of trouble if she just turned up on here..

she's got the midas touch

just start a thread syaing 'fuck buddy WTF'

Massimo what do you want to achieve? Yes this sort of stuff is DIFFICULT and EMBARASSING, that can be the case. How is your communication generally? do you ever have nights out/time together without toddler?

A one off isn't going to kill him is it? I mean when all is said and done she'll be able to roll over and go to sleep while he will be stuck there with Nelson's column for the rest of the night. Try and sleep with that on

I feel fairly happy with our sexual relationship however I have problems orgasming. And I have never been able to achieve one with my dh. This in itself is not such a big worry for me b/c we seem to be moving in the right direction. We are seeing a sex therapist and it has now atleast been acknowledged and we are working on it. My confusion lies with why does he want to take viagra? Its not going to make him perform any better, it sounds if anything it could make it worse.

I had a boyfriend called Nelson once

You can imagine the jokes

"What's white and slides up and down Nelson's column?"
"Morningpaper"

A sex therapist is a good start - do you feel it's going ok with the therapist?

sorry to hear about your lack of orgasming

Oi, completely off topic, mp, but now I see you here, did you know you get quoted in Christina Hardeyment's book, Dream Baby? The rockets thing.

Sorry, possibly wrong thread to deviate on, sorry OP.

OMG that is so weird, someone told me that MONTHS ago and I was googling today to try and find the title of the book!

sorry for deviating OP

Sorry again, OP, is Dream Babies and I've added an extra "e" in her name by accident...

Thanks - it can be a bit frustrating.

The therapist is ok. Sometimes I wish they would give us more practical ideas (but I've got to be realistic - we're not going to have sex infront of them...!). We've been trying to do the sensate touch stuff but it either goes two ways.....so staged we both cant get into it or if we're drunk we end up shagging (which isnt such a bad thing).

at shagging

I kind of imagine that's EXACTLY what it would be like TBH! Although I've never had practical sex therapy

How long have you been having the therapy?

6 months but obv had to deal with some other stuff first. We've only really just started talking about sex in the last month and hence my husband suggesting viagra out of the blue....

IMO, best to keep away from the viagra for now. Try other things - pole dancing, lap dancing, mags, films etc

Good luck, hope you sort it out

My Dh has taken it and i have to say it was better than i expected, probably because we put the whole evening aside for the deed which is a rare thing these days.

Having said that i wouldn't want it to be a regular occurence, viagra that is not marathons, those i would welcome.

I don't think there is an easy solution... the therapy and taking things slowly are the best approach for the long-term. And making time for each other. I'm sorry I can't offer you a solution.