Would this put you off a man?

[MrsSnape]

Would you be put off a man who seemed to spend LOTS of time with his friends, dinner parties, nights out etc or would it be a good sign?

(brand new relationship I mean, not a hubbie that suddenly turned into a party animal overnight)

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we've never actually met it's not even a relationship to be honest, I'm just chatting to someone through a dating site but it seems he's out pretty much every night with friends or entertaining friends. He does have kids and seems to take his responsibilities seriously, the kids come first etc but I wonder where he would fit a relationship into his life IYSWIM?

Maybe I'm just jealous as I have ZERO social life lol

Sounds goo lots of friends

I met my dh when he was out with his friends. Watching him with them made me realise what a faithful and trustworthy man he was. His friends were (and still are) incredibly important to him and have always been a great support to us.

Over time, he has seen them less and less as they all live some distance away, and have families of their own, but they are still very important to him (and now me).

I think it depends on how much time you mean. If he hasn't been in a relationship for a while, I can see why he spends lots of time with his friends.

Can you see that changing/altering slightly as you and he spend more time together?

Could it not be that he is lonely? If he's now on his own, he may not want to sit in an empty house/flat by himself.

And if he has lots of friends, surely this is a good thing? He must be a good bloke then?!

I'm really unsociable, suppose I worry that it would all be a bit much IYSWIM?

Well, if you are looking for the sort of relationship where you sit in your front room staring at each other and talking about 'our relationship' every night then this is probably not the man for you.

In the days before I had DS I would have been happy to date a man with lots of friends as long as he didn't mind spending some time with my friends too. I was never wild about men with no friends because they always seemed to want to hijack my life.

Basically people vary in how sociable they are: there is another thread about this going on at the moment, and it's true that a very unsociable person and a very sociable person can have difficulty adjusting to one another. THis does not make either of them wrong or bad or wierd.

I think it would.
I'm probably being unreasonable but I'd think he wasn't happy in his own company and was desperate to meet someone, anyone.

I'd rather someone happy to spend time alone as I am. I'd think they were going to smother me otherwise.

If this is the only potential problem you can see so far, I think you should meet him.
He might just have a very full social life because he's single. And a very nice and charming person who everyone likes.

don't believe him is my advice! dating sites advise you to look busy instead of a hermit- it might be that he is sat at home every night, but trying to impress you!