Am i really a shallow evil person? and how do i sort this out?

[HRHSaintMamazon]

ok this may be long so sorry.

i went on a hen weekend this summer to Benidorm.
We were at the hotel with 2 stag parties that we would often sit round the pool chatting with or end up in the same bar's with.

Well i keep in touch with a couple of them still on facebook. i have ended up chatting to one of the guys a lot more than any of the others and he asked for my mobile number. i gave it and we have been exchanging texts for weeks.
to start with they were just jokes that go round by text, then they were more chatty and now we text pretty much all day every day from 7 am till gone midnight.

It has become apparant that he would like things to move on.
Now this guy is really funny and we have such a laugh. we have similar taste's in everything and our personalities match perfectly.

BUT, and it is a huge but, i am 6'1 he is 5'8. he isn't ugly but i don't find him physically attractive.

so for me nothing can ever come of it. I accept that this is a failing on my part, but i simply can't see it happening.

but i really enjoy our conversatuions and would hate to damage the friendship we have built.
I have never lead him on at all, though i must admit some of the texts could be considered flirty.

so what do i do?

If you don't fancy him and he clearly fancies you, be straight with him and tell him now. Accept that he will either be happy to be 'just friends' or that it won't be enough for him and things will cool off. Not fair to lead him on.

Give it a go, the last time you met him was in the summer I presume. I had a bit of a phone thing going on with a man once, when I met him I thought - not my type. However we'd got on so well on the phone I decided to at least go for a drink with him... 11 years later here we are, married, 3 dc's, annoyingly happy .

aww Cat thats a lovely story.

I have kind of hinted that things would never go any firther than just friends but he is so easy to talk to we have discussed all sorts of stuff.

I would happily meet him for a drink or a day out or something, i would very much like him to be in my permenant group of friends.

I would just hate for him to make a proper move and then feel embarrassed abotu it and never speak to me again or something.
I should probably be flattered....its my first suiter in a long time lol

Sorry to say this but it sounds to me like you have led him on, albeit probably not on purpose. No normal friendship involves perpetual texts from first thing in the morning to last thing at night. I think you should be honest with him asap and accept the possibility that his reaction might not be pretty

is it just cos he's shorter than you??