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Really fed up with my work colleagues

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LolaTheShowgirl · 04/11/2008 20:20

I didn't know where to put this thread but seeing as i'm having problems relating to them, I thought I would pop it in here

I work in a small office with 5 other women. We work shifts and there is usually 2 of us on at the same time, though occasionally three. One of them is 10 years older than me and the rest more than 20 years older. The problem I have is that all day long they bitch about each other and i'm certain that at least 4 of them must bitch about me behind my back. I left the office today to sort something out in a different room and this woman whose job I took over (she now works in a different dept) was stood with a colleague I was on the shift with and as soon as I re-entered the room my office is in, I heard my colleague whisper to ex-colleague that she will 'tell her later' so I may be being paranoid, but I think they were gossiping about me. The ex-colleague worked with the rest of the girls in my dept for 10 years so they are all close and I feel so bloody pushed out but that doesn't usually bother me, what bothers me more is the fact I work with the biggest back-biting bitches that exist! I know nothing can be done about it apart from keeping my head low, but I just feel like ranting!

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StealthPolarBANG · 04/11/2008 20:22

rise above it
No doubt everyone else thinks they are schoolgirl idiots as well
let them self destruct

tribpot · 04/11/2008 20:25

I will probably get flamed for saying so, but as far as I can tell, this is one of the penalties of working in a female-dominated environment. I haven't for years (I work in IT so deal with a very different set of issues due to working in a male-dominated environment, in fact it occurs to me I would be my own worst nightmare if now transplanted in a female-dominated environment again!).

No point joining in. Rant away, it sounds godawful!

quinne · 04/11/2008 20:26

work hard, conduct yourself well and get promoted over their heads... from their perspective nothing is more annoying and then worrying (does she know what we were saying about her??). Really it has the upside that you don't have to spend time being friendly with them so you can get on with your job.

lazyhen · 04/11/2008 20:29

I think this goes on everywhere TBH. I work in healthcare which is very female dominated. The best advice I can give is to get your head down and don't indulge in the gossip. Easier said than done I know!

MadamDeathstare · 06/11/2008 03:15

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2manychips · 06/11/2008 09:07

Tribpot is spot on, I've worked in a female dominated environment for 20yrs at various establishments and this has been the case in all of them. Its caused me a lot of stress and misery. In the end I just went in, did my job,stayed away at lunchtimes and went home as quick as poss in the eve.

peonyflower · 07/11/2008 22:06

totally agree. get on with your work and don't join in the gossip. that way they have nothing 'on you'.
Everyone whispers in my office and I can't stand it but at the same time really believe that whilst they are talking about me at least they are leaving some poor other person alone!!
Also agree that some men in the workplace definately seems to level an office out as long as they are not the stressy - anxious types.

southeastastra · 07/11/2008 22:12

we have a new male boss, all the women giggle round him, it's pathetic really

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