DH has one brother and they used to be very close. His brother has apparently always been a little bit rude and quite selfish, but liveable with.
Anyway, he met his wife abiut 5 yrs ago and since then has been pretty unbearable. Treated PIL very, very badly. The wife has never had the time of day for me and they've been rude to me quite a lot in the past.
Just over 3 yers ago their first dc was born and suddenly they made an effort and were all chummy with us, despite the fact they'd ignored us for about 18 months - BIL would ignore DH's emails and text etc.
Well, thing were ok-ish for a while but there was still a lot of not very nice passive-aggressive stuff going on from the wife. Anyway, we ended up having a disagreement over a family event and she went absolutely bonkers and sent some emails to us which were extremely nasty.
So, we've not spoken since. They recently had another DC and 8 weeks later we had our first DC. There has been no communication between us for 18 months.
These are the only cousins our DC has and is likely to have, I don't really know how to proceed with this - do I tell her she has an Uncle or cousins when she gets bigger, or brush them under the carpet?
I cannot see any amends being made from either camp. I, personally, believe that family feuds are a ridiculous waste of precious time and energy but BIL and SIL are determined that this is the way it will be, despite a couple of olive branches from us (which were very hard to make, given that she has never apologised for the personal attack she made on me).
Not sure what I want really, just playing on my mind today..