I am a (semi) regular poster but would like to keep confidential for this one, but could do with some help.
I have been with my DH for 9 years, married for 5. He has always been a heavy drinker and we have always drunk together. Around a year ago he made the decision that he would attempt to significantly cut down and control it, which he did, for the most part. We have had some drunken nights, but he has mainly been pretty good, although he would normally drink 1 bottle of wine per night, but between say 7.00 and 10.30. I knew though, that this was a struggle.
He holds down a demanding job which he hates (but pays very well which is why he hasn't left - I would happily have him earn nothing if he was happy) and generally "functions" well. He can hold it together at work dos and with our friends.
I went away this weekend for the first time in ages and I could tell something was wrong.
When I got back, my DH said he had basically spent the whole weekend either asleep or drunk, including going to bed at 5am on Sunday morning, waking at 10 and then drinking 2 glasses of wine before going back to bed.
He said that he realises that he is no longer in control, phoned AA and went to his first meeting last night, and second at lunch time today.
So basically, I just need to know what I should be doing. I think he should have some counselling as he gets quite anxious about things as well and is very much a perfectionist.
He is a wonderful man and I am so proud of him for facing his demon, but am also scared. What if he fails? Where will that leave him? And us?
I have given up drinking too, to help (I'm not that bothered one way or another) but I would like to make sure I am doing the right things and helping as far as I can.
Thank you if you have read this far.