I'm really confused. My parents seem to have lost the plot a bit this evening. Both of them.
A couple of weeks ago I wrote a nice card to my grandmother which was apparently greeted with disdain, she took the opportunity to slag me off to my father and he stood up to it and didn't join in. Good so far.
So my mother mentioned all this to me, and I was upset and decided I wasn't going to have a lot to do with said grandmother for at least a while. (She is generally a poisonous old loon).
Dad said he understood, that was fine. Mum also. They still see her a lot as she lives in their street.
Yesterday was her birthday. I mentioned to my father that I wasn't sure a card would be welcome so I wasn't going to send one - although I felt bad about it. Again he said he understood.
So, just now I had a phone call from Dad. He was very quiet and told me he was apologising, because he just gave his mother my phone number. (I have recently moved and they know I don't want her to have it as she is so underhand and basically horrible).
He said she was asking why I had forgotten her birthday, and he had assumed she already had my number and told her to ring me if she wanted to discuss things. Then gave her my number, and then rang me to say he was sorry.,
I said not to worry but that I wasn't sure what to do about it as there isn't a way to 'un' give her it now. I wonder if he was just doing a passive aggressive thing? It isn't like him.
Earlier on my mother was on the phone and I was being beseiged by my children and was getting annoyed that I couldn't talk to her so I said I ought to go, and she hung up. Actually she had thrown her phone across the room (she rang back to tell me she had done this)
Apparently when I said I was being 'attacked' (by the children), she thought I meant by her, as she was tutting at my telling off ds1. even more.
I am just baffled really. I think someone must have put something in their tea.