It's our wedding anniversary. I ironed all DH's work shirts for next week. He didn't say thank you, he said suspiciously "What do you want?".
I gave him a card and a cheap box of cakes that he likes. He didn't say thank you, he said "you know we don't buy each other anything for anniversarys". He hadn't got me a card.
I remembered to buy cakes from the bakery shop the day before for breakfast for a treat. DH decided the kids weren't going to have them because they had been naughty. That meant we couldn't either because we wouldn't enjoy eating them in front of our crying children who had none. So another nice thing I had done, gone wrong.
I must have started to look sad but was trying not to. I was doing some washing up and DH was hounding me about "what's wrong, you look in a mood". I was trying to let it all go and just said I'm not going to look joyful about doing the washing up.
The housework is looking quite under control at the moment (something I'm not all that good at) but DH then said we had to sort out the post together because it was looking like a bad pile. He knows I hate it when he does this. I feel that it is a way of saying "you haven't been doing your job properly and you are lazy and that is why I have to 'help' you do it now". Also he was forcing me to do paperwork on our anniversary which I didn't want to do. I did get snappy then.
He then offered to take the children for a walk to the shop, which is good, but he said I could either come, or stay at home and be "incredibly lazy". He wasn't having a go but I then feel that if I don't go, which I don't want to because I'm in a mood now, he is going to think I'm incredibly lazy. I haven't gone.
Am I lazy? I've organised a friend to have our children over night (which I did for her a few weeks ago) so that we can have a nice evening together and I've booked a table at a restaurant. I've bought stuff to make him bacon sandwiches in bed the following morning before we go and pick up the kids.
I feel like I've made lots of effort to make it nice for him, not to get loads in return, but not even a card?! and everything I've done seems to be going wrong so far!
As he went out with the kids he asked me if I still loved him with a mournful look and I said yes a bit impatiently. He said "It's supposed to be our anniversary". So I'm supposed to feel guilty for showing the slightest trace of moodiness and I'm supposed to feel like the bad one!
I had a slight hope he might get me a card while out with the kids but he hasn't come back with one.
Am I being oversensitive to be feeling a bit upset?