Looking at other men

[pinkroses]

I have a problem at the moment...I keep looking at other men and I have been married for 4 years.

I have never looked at other men before, but I am coming across men I am now attracted to. What should I do, should I discuss this with my husband as there must be a major problem between us brewing. We have had lots of problems...MIL, money, sex, etc!!!

I'm actually quite confused...I still love my husband, but my head is being turned by others. ANyone else had the same problem????

I spoke to dh about our troubles...not about me looking at other men. He agrees that things are not great at the moment, so we should try to fix things.

I asked what he wants and he wants to watch porn together...or make our own. Should I do this?? and what do I do...just watch?? This is all new to me.

i think if you have troubles in your marriage then just watching porn together isn't going to fix it, and tbh you sound like it isn't somethign you would feel comfortable with. Make sure that if you do it, you are absolutely happy and sure with your decision, or it could just lead to more questions rather than answers.

i'm with Lou, on this one, personally I wouldn't do a home movie, have doen pics thou, fab sex after.

work on the relationship, sex is only one part of it.

I hadn't looked at it that way. You are all so right. We are great friends, but there is no passion between us. I have been trying so hard to fix this, but he is only responding when he wants to. I tried cuddling him last night and this morning, but he wasn't cuddling me back.

TBH, got nothing against porn, but would prefer to try other stuff to spice up our relationship.

i agree grumpyfrumpy totally, you should be comfy with what you are doing. If you are uneasy iy wont be right and he shud at least me you half way, lets face it though hes a man and we all no have no imagination in that department