mothers who leave

[abikay]

I would dearly love to hear from any grown up daughters whose mother left them as children whatever the circumstances (apart from a mother dying). I am a mother and undergraduate student undertaking my final year dissertation on this sensitive subject. I need to interview a few mothers on their feelings concerning their experience of being left by their mothers. I am very sympathetic to the subject matter and can 100% assure complete privacy. I will not use names or any other personal identifying details in my final dissertation piece. I do not need to interview for a few months but would like to make contact in advance to be able to put you at ease and familiarise you with how we can take this forward. When the interviews do take place I will fit in with what ever is easier for you as per the location. I would be most gratefull for anyones help, many thanks, Abi

I can understand why you would not want mothers who left because they died as the majority had no choice in the matter, However my mother committed suicide, so she did decide to leave albeit in a permanent way.
I have many issues regarding her choice, so if you did want to contact me please feel free

Hi Abi
My mother left 4 of us when I was 12, and the youngest of my siblings was 3.
I'm happy to speak to you about it, over the years I've gradually processed my feelings over it so feel ok talking about it now.

hi, yes you have actually just brought to my attention a really valid and interesting aspect that could be included in my dissertation. A suicide is an 'abandonment' and relates totally in terms of the emotions and feelings you have had to experience and grow up with. If you want to email me your details I would be really gratefull, many thanks Abi

Hi pillock yes I would be interested to talk with you, could you also send me a message and i'll contact you, thanks, Abi

My mum left when I was 15 she took my younger sister and left my brother and I - I don't think I have ever really spoken about it TBH - I have 2 DC and cannot conceive ever leaving them which makes me wonder as to her state of mind at the time I know it wasn't good
We actually have a fairly good relationship now

I know three women who's mothers left them with their fathers. I think for all 3 having relationships and children of their own made them think differently about the situation. I will tell them about this.

Hi
My mother also left me and my brother and sister. I was the youngest at just turned 10.
Although we had contact after a while and get on reasonably well now, I do still feel she abandoned us. Feelings come to the surface much more often now I am a mum myself.

Abi have tried to message you but you dont have CAT feel free to CAT me if you would like to talk to me !

Would it be possible for you to tell me what subject you are studying? Thank you.

I don't have CAT Abi but can recieve them so you will either need to CAT me or give me an email address to contact you on

i paid for CAT 10 mins ago! i will try and sort this out asap!

im already blown away by this fabulous response in 10 mins! thanks!

paying for CAT means you can message us, not that we can message you. To receive them you have to have selected to enable them in your 'my mumsnet' bit

oneplusone im studying for a degree in psychosocial studies at the university of east london

What about mothers who give their children up for adoption? She didn't leave but her child did.

ok thanks for that pillock ill try and sort this out now

Not too sure if I can help, was put up for adoption by birth mum

lol, X-posted

Easiest thing to do is to CAT us, click on the envelope symbol to do it, as you've paid it should let you message us.

its sorted can be contacted now
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My next door neighbour has a child with 1st husband and left the child with him when she went into new relationship, she then had another two children and also left them with 2nd partner. She once admitted she couldnt stand her toddler. She loved them as babies but after that couldnt cope with them. She would probably speak to you as shes quite open about it.

Abikay - I don't have CAT but if you CAT me I will e-mail you

But I can't contact you Abi as I don't have CAT
You will need to send me a message via CAT instead and then I can reply to you.

hi, adoption is a very interesting topic and my partner was adopted. But decided to explore mothers who actually leave and walk away leaving the child/children with relatives or father (maybe subsequently ending up in care or adopted as a consequence). Adoption has been explored much more then this subject. And i need to try and tackle an issue that has not been explored so much in the past. But thanks for offering help anyway [smile}

ok i will message all those interested who dont have CAT. please let me know if you want me to message you and ill reply asap (ill start this evening as soon as my children are in bed) another option is my email which I dont mind people having: [email protected] and just email me.