He throws a strop if I go to bed at 10pm after I've fed and settled the baby

[jaijay]

LO is 4 months old and I look after her 24/7 and have done since day 1, she wakes 3 times a night for feeding. He snores away in the spare room getting an uninterrupted night's sleep but usually moans how knackered he is because I'm not looking after him. A few times he's started arguments going on about "what about my needs?" shouting and waking LO and stopping me from getting any shuteye. He says that he's looked it up on the internet and if things aren't back to normal within 2 months then there's something wrong!

Well, even if I wasn't so knackered a lot of the time, I hardly feel like jumping on him when he makes out that I'm abnormal! He's away for work for almost half the time and I'm so much more relaxed and life is definitely easier without him - no crisps and crumbs on the floor, crisp packets around (yes, around) the bin, dirty glasses and cups left about, dirty socks scrunched up on the floor... slob qualities aren't really a turn on for me.

Yes there have been plenty of words, apologies and promises but bull is his middle name.

Unrestrained thoughts please?

lol at the Bounty Pack suggestion

It would go along with copious amounts of alcohol, chocolate, and a months broadband subscription...the cornerstones of parental support

pmsl @bounty pack

Xavielli, believe it or not, what he meant by normal was before pregnancy, not even during! So we're all abnormal on here then? Lol!

I heart Custardo. In my drunken moments I sometimes think as bravely as she speaks

I'm pretty sure that he couldn't have looked very far on the internet, or he'd have found Mumsnet and realised the error of his ways pretty sharpish!

Sounds like an arse.

Tell him to shape up or ship out.

custardo... I nearly spat my tea over the computer reading that....

If only you could be more direct and not sugarcoat your words, custy...
pmsl at 'cuntwhacker'
lol @ bountypack. Would be more use than the teeny tiny pots of sudocrem.

I'd suggest showing him this thread to show your research on the internet, but I fear he'd have an attack of the vapours at custy's post. (Which is a bloody excellent one, btw ).

Oh fuck it, show him the thread

PMSL @ Custardo as Relate counsellor!

He does need to grow up he sounds like a spoilt brat not a partner or father.

What a twat.

Life is easier without him for a reason - because he's not worth living with with an attitude like that.

But I'm with anyfucker, who speaks sense as usual.

Right. This attitude pisses me off.

How can anyone expect their DP to understand how exhausting looking after a LO is if they basically exclude said DP from doing any of the looking after.

It takes two parents to make a baby, and if you are both there and able, the two of you should he could be changing some nappies, taking the odd feed (inc night time if feasible) and doing the nightly baths.

If this is your life partner, then how you deal with these early months will sent the tone for the rest of your time bringing up your children. If he gets used now to doing nothing, then you should expect to be doing it all yourself for the rest of your life. Plus he will have missed out on these precious early months and the bonding experience of caring for a tiny baby. That to me sounds pretty crummy.

You say you couldn't inflict him on a tiny baby. A lot of the time people don't want their DP doing things for their baby because they think it would be done wrong, or at least not the way they would do it themselves. But how is anyone supposed to learn if they are never allowed to try?

If you really think him caring for your LO would be dangerous, as opposed to just unskilled, then all I can do is echo everyone else: what the fuck are you doing with him?