Mum drives me up the wall

[Wigglesworth]

Does anyone else have a Mum that thinks she is supernanny and knows it all about babies when in reality she knows jack shit cos she brought her kids up 30 years ago and guess what, things have changed since then!
My DS is 11 weeks old and myself and my DH have worked damn hard to get him as settled and happy as he is, it was a nightmare at first. My Mum cannot help herself but take over and try to tell me how to do it. I am a 28 year old married woman who has a decent job and a home etc.
My Mum constantly asks questions me about whether he is warm enough and has he been fed and when am I weaning him cos he should start at 3 months old with a rusk in his bottle!!! Ok Mum no he is pissing freezing we starve him and I obviously need you to tell me how and when to wean my own child cos clearly I ain't got a f**king clue!!
I am nearing the end of my patience and will fall out with her soon. How do you guys deal with this?

I suppose you need to be grownup enough to disagree with her in a friendly way. It takes confidence but I'm sure you have that.

Smile sweetly, tell her you're grateful for her concern, but that you and your dh are very happy with how your baby is doing thanks. And don't leave her unsupervised with your baby or she might put that rusk in his bottle! Allow any babysitting on a very occasional basis and only when you are confident that she will follow YOUR rules! If she knows that the best way to get her hands on your baby is to toe the line, then hopefully she'll listen to you!

If it makes you feel any better...

I'm 33, 1 hubby, own home, car and post-graduate diploma, and the other day my mum sent my a text at 7.15 am to 'make sure you put DD (4) in a proper coat cos it's really chilly this morning'

I've had to call her on this kind of thing several times recently and we've had a few barneys over it. She's easing off a bit, and I know she doesn't mean it to come across that she thinks I'm totally incapable but...

I wouldn't hold your breath for it to end anytime soon. Just listen to her going on and let it all go out the other ear. It's gonna be hard for a while cos it's early days but you'll reach a point where either she gives up or you become immune to it.

My mum makes unbelievable comments - she clearly thinks I am a bit of a thicko when it comes to my kids. We have had a few rows about it over the years but most of the time I go down the ignoring her route and try to remember what a fantastic help she has been and is to me, my dc and my dh. I'm sure your Mum is just trying to show how much she loves you and your DS and doesn't realise she's overstepping the mark. She probably doesn't realise what a struggle it's been for you to get your baby to this point - my youngest is only 14months and I already can't remember how hard the first few months are.