Oh god I have just clicked on google toolbar search history and (adult eyes only)

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dh has been looking up gay porn. Couple this with the fact that he has previsouly had a gay experience (with a family member of mine) which I am very paranoid about anyway. He isn't that interested in sex at all but it is not a major point between us as we are both usually tired anyway. He is a fantastic dad to the kids and we get on really well although there isnt really much of a spark between us.

I don't know what to do. I feel betrayed. is he gay? bisexual? just curious? I don't really have anything against people using porn but this has floored me. He is very 'macho' and has made crass jokes about gay people which makes me think that maybe he is this way because he is trying to cover up the fact that he is gay.

What the hell do i do?

Regular btw. I have been around along time; mad tablecloth lady, the bat, morticia blah blah. Wish I was bloody trolling. If it was just me I am sure I would leave although I do love him but I can't bear the thought of what this would do to my kids.

talk to him. Theres no point stressing yourself that his gay, bi or just looking you need to know.
If he is bi or gay will that be the end for you two? Odd question i know but i guess it depends on how important sex is within your relationship. Does he seem unhappy? sorry

He could just have gay fantasies and the porn is enough to satisfy his fantasies.

I think lots of people have fantasies that they would never ever want to actually happen in reality.

Talk to him and let him know you want him to be open with you and you won't judge him for doing so.

I just wouldn't trust that he isn't going to have another 'experience'. We were together and I was pregnant when it happened before. The betrayal would be the problem.

I agree OMDB as I have fantasised about things that I wouldnt want in RL it is the previous betrayal which he denied was a gay thing just a drunken opportunity. Now this.

really naive but can anyone tell me what a 'twink' is this was in one of the searches. he obviously knows his terminology.

for you

wink or twinkie is a gay slang term describing an attractive young or young-looking gay man (usually in his late teens or early twenties) with a slender build and little or no body hair.[4][5] In some societies, the term chick or chicken is preferred.[6] Twinkle-toes is a related term also used, usually in a derogatory manner, to imply a man is effeminate.[7] The terms can be complimentary or pejorative.[8][9]
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I googled "twink" and copied and pasted this off wykapedia (sp)

thanks bella. Couldnt bring myself to google it. but just as I expected.

I hope you manage to sort things out.

Sorry to hear about this.

I don't really buy all this 'it's just a bit of harmless fun' rubbish. I would be very suspicious.

yes Mrs Mattie if it was just the porn alone I would be a little concerned but coupled with what happened before it is more than a little worrying.

he will probably be home at 1pm and I don't know where to start or what to say.

Talk to him.

Try to stay calm, even if you feel like shouting or loosing it, you're more likely to get straight answers from him that way.

Tell him you need to know the truth, and that he should be able to tell his wife the truth, after all.

I'm really sorry you have to go through this.

Sorry to hear about this. Just a thought - is there any chance he may have wanted you to find out? Leaving it in the google search history is a bit too careless of him if he were to really want to keep this a secret.
Is it maybe something he wants you to be aware of, even though not consciously?