Assault charges

[changeofname80]

I need some advice.

DH has reported me to the police for assault. What will happen next? Never been in trouble with the police before.

I am not sure that your actions could be considered self defence in law, as kicking him in the face and breaking his nose would probably be viewed as a disproportionate response to grabbing your arm.

Do you think you were justified in this? has he harmed you before? Do you think you have a future as a couple?

This is the first time we have had anything as bad as this.

I don't think it was justified

eXDP reported me to the police to (there was a violent argument, but I defo came off worse) I had to be interviewed under caution, I explained the situation, they decided they wanted to charge HIM, which I didn't want - I basically kept repeating that we were both as bad as each other and in the end they left it at that - be careful what you get dragged in to and what you admit to, he said I had punched him in the face (don't think I did) but I said that we were both pulling and pushing each other, and it was quite possible it had happened but that I couldn't recall.

Good luck

jesus that's hiorrible and completely out of proportion. it's a good thing he reported you to the police as all domestic violence (his included) should be reported. i can only imagine the response you'd be getting if you had posted that story and had happened to be male.
"i tried to leave, wife was pulling me back and stopping me from leaving so i broke her nose."

also that would most likely not be considered self-defence as he had released you and was no longer being physical towards you.it would be considered retaliation all though you could use a partial defence of provocation.

changeofname, from what you've said, it does sound like you would have a good case for self defence. At the end of the day, he grabbed and pulled you and put your arm behind your back. That is assault on you. You therefore clearly wanted/needed to get away and therefore did so in the only way you could. Just because he came off worse than you doesn't mean that it wasn't self defence.
Madamdeathstare is correct in stating that if you took a friend to the police station with you for moral support, they would not usually be allowed in with you when you made a statement. However, if you spoke to the domestic violence officer (every main police station has one) you would probably get a lot more support and sympathy. No matter what happens, I feel that you should make a statement (even if you just write it yourself, date it and don't submit it to the police at this stage) just to cover yourself in the future. By the way, do you have any actual evidence that he has gone to the police? He may just be trying to scare you.