My parents love dd to bits, which is great, and I'm really glad they do. However, when dd and I are together its literally like I dont exist. They focus all their attention on her, and dont even bother listening to me talk let alone reply. My mother constantly tells dd how much she loves her, wants to see her, which amazes me as she never once said this to me when I was a child let alone as an adult. It all started after I gave birth, I had a traumatic birth and was in the high dependency unit for a week because I was so ill. My mother visited and became transfixed with dd but seemed disinterested in me or the fact I'd almost dies from blood loss (raised this with her recently and she said of course she cared, and I'm sure she did but didnt feel like she did).
Today was another classic example, at parents house with dd and everything focused on dd while I was left sort of just sitting there.
Maybe I am being pathetic and its normal and natural that dd should get masses of attention, as she is little, but it would be nice to feel that I mattered rather than just being dd's mother!