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First night out with DH in 12 months. Need inspiration please! LittleLapin - I'm sensing I need you on this thread!

58 replies

Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 11:13

So that last year has been a bit tough. My father died, my husband was made redundant, got a job, then lost it four months later...when DS was only a few weeks old. Same old credit crunch mortgage problems that everyones having have put us £400 in a month worse off, blah blah blah.

Anyway. DH and I have soldiered on through, as you do. Co-parenting always, finding moments to be husband and wife very rarely. We are very much in love, but feel a bit desperate at the distance circumstances often put between us emotionally.

Anyway, my mum is finally feeling a bit stronger, and has offered us a night of babysitting. Dh doesn't know yet - it's going to be a surprise. I need some inspiration as to what to do. Money is an issue, but could spend up to about £60. I don't want to do cinema because we need to talk. A nice meal would be good, but somewhere romantic might be too expensive?

We're in West London. Any suggestions for putting together the perfect night?

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 30/09/2008 17:53

Know all about them!

We in same catchment area with same dilema.

dd(3.5) is at s school nursery. ds went there too in nursery. School is definately improving. They've got ofsted this week so will be interesting to see what they say.

The private school lists all change around a lot as lots of people leave the area or hold offers from more than one school.

If you have 2 dcs you will be much more attractive too as they are likely to get 2 school fees out of you!

ds at school that does the ballot. Apart from what I said in the other thread, it is a lovely school but like them all locally, has very limited space. We have been, generally, very pleased with it. I like the Head. (Have met with class teacher and have plan of action and apology!)

Feel free to CAT me if you want to talk offline anymore.

Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 18:21

Can't CAT you as am not signed up, but OMG - our DD's are at nursery together...if she goes in the morning...

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Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 18:29

Desperate - have signed up to CAT and emailed you. Am out for a bit of this evening but will check back in later.

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littlelapin · 30/09/2008 18:36

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 30/09/2008 19:18

Yes, my dd there in am!

I wonder if we know each other already? I can think of two people that I have chatted to who have a younger boy as well as a dd.

Haven't received an email yet but will keep checking.

Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 19:30

I'm convinced we have spoken - do you get there early after dropping DS? I emailed you via CAT about an hour ago...just off to bath DD.

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 30/09/2008 19:32

Yes, I do!

Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 20:14

Well, what a small world - sort of! Do you know who I am yet? DH is a SAHD - I told you this the other morning I think. I drop DD and he picks up.

Had no idea the S School ofsted was due - that will make interesting reading. When we did the open day we had a rough idea that the school wasn't so great, but we had no idea of the specific Daily Mail history until the Head made reference to it . Oh gosh, I really am going to bore the tits off you about schools now.

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Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 20:16

And yes, Lapin - see how you blessed and charmed my thread? Though now I have way too much work to do to be able to go out tomorrow night - will have to take a rain cheque from my mum for next week - but lots of great ideas on this thread - most making me want to spend more money though!

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Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 20:27

Desperate - you can email me at [email protected] if the CAT doesn't come through - or try CATing me? Am of out of an hour or so now - but desperate to figure out if we've spoken before tomorrow morning!

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 30/09/2008 20:43

Sorry, dh stole laptop to watch footie!

Yes, I know exactly who you are!

I was admiring your dd's beautiful gold shoes the other morning.

Your dh works on Thursdays.

Will email you if don't receive your message.

spamm · 30/09/2008 21:07

OOH - this is soo nice, I love it. Sorry, I just wanted to say that, as it made me smile.

DesperateHousewifeToo · 30/09/2008 21:45
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Sycamoretree · 30/09/2008 22:40

Hurrah! Got your email and replied. I'm ridiculously excited - I feel like we should win some sort of prize! See you on the bench tomorrow!

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mrsbabookaloo · 02/10/2008 13:32

Just checking back on this thread. How nice it was... a nice dinner and a funny coincidence.

Did you have a nice time sycamoretree?

Sycamoretree · 02/10/2008 14:25

Well, now you ask! It didn't happen this week as I got overloaded with work and I didn't want to go feeling stressed about not being prepared for work the next day. So actually, we are going on Saturday night, and against all recommendations (but slightly inspired by the comedy club idea - sort of, bit of lateral thinking) I have booked for us to go bowling at swanky bowling place with swanky (hopefully) american diner style restaurant attached. Well, Faye Machler (sp?) has bigged them up on their website, so hopefully the food will be good.

And yes, Desperate and I are now bumping into each other all over the place, not just at nursery and MN - and in another place that also isn't real life, but I will remain cryptic on that front to avoid risk of exposing her RL ID! It's a happy MN story . Will report back on bowling night for all those kind enough to take an interest!

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 02/10/2008 18:34

{whispers - do you know I keep bumping into this strange woman wherever I go. I'm sure she's stalking me}

Seriously, it's been lovely meeting you, Sycamoretree. I do hope our dd's get to know each other well.

Sycamoretree · 02/10/2008 20:51

Well, we're probably not going to end up giving them a choice now!

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Sycamoretree · 02/10/2008 20:53

BTW Desperate, I did some sleuthing on the EC debacle/troll business and apparently QVC or whatever is not remotely involved but EC has been officially and unceremoniously BANNED from MN, like, Fer Loif!

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 03/10/2008 09:51

Do you think some people have too much time on their hands?

{not us, of course!}

mrsbabookaloo · 03/10/2008 20:45

Enjoy the bowling!

peasoup · 04/10/2008 10:14

Was just reading this and got sidetracked with the Ethan Christopher thingy you mention; what the hell was that all about? Was she a troll then? I missed all that, SOB!

peasoup · 04/10/2008 10:19

BTW, Enjoy the bowling! Is it that place in Holborn? I think it sounds the perfect night out for me and DH too; both really good bowlers in our late teens; now might be fun to go back there in our creaking early 40's Was checking out this thread as I have Chsiwick connections and was being nosey. BTW, in relation to another thread I have going; any of you know nice single Dads in the Chiswick, Brentford, Kew area? Am looking for some to hook up with my brother who's going through a divorce and has the girls (age 11 and 9) most weekends and lots during the week too. Needs someone to hang out with!

Sycamoretree · 04/10/2008 19:02

Hello ladies - just off out - yes, it's the same chain as the one in Holborn, but the one we're off to is at Whitelys in Bayswater.

Yes, EC was a TROLL! Desperate tipped me off but I missed the night of the infamous demasking thread - which is now deleted, but she was not remotely a 15 year old mum, so has been officially banned from MN.

Peasoup - don't know any single dads I'm afraid, but is he new in this area, or just newly single?

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Sycamoretree · 05/10/2008 10:53

Yay, Bowling was a huge success - loads of fun, and very swanky (no teenagers!).

Sycamoretree 2 DH 0

Trying to pretend he let me win to cheer me up but no man throws two gutterballs in a row in front of other men just to cheer up his wife now does he?

Food was lovely, and DH and I shared a rum and coconut shake which was delicious. Unfortunately, as DH insisted we played a second game in order to give him a chance to win back some dignity, we ended up spending $$$ more than we intended as food is no cheaper than a nice restaurant, but it was worth it. I'd definitely recommend it Peasoup - and in hindsight, we probably could have eaten just as happily from the bar menu and saved a bit of cash.

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