How do you say no....

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ignore his grumps, he is being childish

your body, your choice

treat him how you would have him treat you

then if he doesn't, you have no reason to feel guilty

go to bed and sit up for a few minutes moaning and groaning with a sick bucket on your lap, he's unlikely to start groping you.
not that i would ever resort to those measures of course.

Who recoils the most?

Shiver - if he can still grope you after that, don't you think he's earned it?

if he'd earned anything it would be therapy ,and plenty of it.
unless its some kind of fettish.

Is this happening a lot (him asking for sex, you refusing, him sulking?)? Basically do the two of you have a libido mismatch in that he wants more sex than you do? It might help to have a chat with him when you are not in bed and not just after one of you has initiated sex and been rebuffed, but when you are both relaxed and in good moods: say need to work out what would suit &both* of you with regard to how much sex you have and not to blame each other over it.