My friends DP messed up big time what would you do?

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My friend found months of texts between her DP and his work collegue that were very familiar. She confronted him and he said it had been going on for 4 months but they have not slept together. He is really sorry but has totally blown the trust but he says he loves her and she loves him but is devastated. What would you do? Let him come back or should it be over before they get married and have kids?

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Have had a similar situation happen to me. A new woman started at DH's work and he seemed to get on with her very well. It became apparent that she had taken a shine to him and DH and I even had a laugh about it. I had no reason to mistrust him until one day he phoned home on his mobile by mistake when his phone was in his pocket. I listen to 40 minutes of no more than just chit chat between the pair of them but the way they spoke to each other was totally inappropriate (considering he is married)and there was a closeness between them that no married man should have for a woman other than his wife.

Needless to say I felt very hurt and betrayed and when I confronted DH about it he swore blind that it was no more than flirting, that he had enjoyed the attention and admitted it was totally inappropriate behaviour. I asked DH not to talk to her unless it was about work and to end the so called 'friendship' then and there. It was hell at first to think that this woman was at work with my husband every day and I didn't know what the hell was going on between them but slowly I am beginning to trust him again.

Not really sure what to advise you with regard to your friend, I think it depends on the individual.

I have been there too. Your friend will be hurting so much and will take time alot of time to build up the trust in him again. If she loves him and thinks hes worth it then im sure they can make it work.

Mampam is right it depends on how induviduals cope with this kind of situation. I personally reacted quite out of character and was very understanding. 4 months on we are back on track but i have bad days.

Im not sure what advice i can give but just let her know this happens alot and we are here if need to talk or vent xx