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Really want another dc

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LaDiDaDi · 17/09/2008 22:50

DD is now 2.4, she is the greatest thing in my life and I would really love to have another dc not only for myself and dp but also to give dd a sibling.

Dp has had mental health problems (depression/anxiety) for the past year although he is now much better than he was 6 months ago.

I feel that all I can think about is havng another dc, I so wan t to be pregnant and then have another lo it's eating away at me all of the time because dp is really reluctant to ttc. I know that any decision has to be a joint one but it's making me so unhappy. Friends had a lo today and I just feel like crying because I'm so jealous and I know that this is going to get worse as I have a very good friend who is pregnant and another who is ttc.

I do understand dp's concerns about his health but I also feel that I will end up depressed if I can't see that there will become a point where we will ttc again. I was ill at the end of my last pregnancy and had dd at 32 weeks but I thought that our recent appointment with the consultant to talk through these risks was really helpful and would mean that we could now "get going" as it were but dp seems to have got cold feet again...

I just want some words of advice/comfort please.

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Pheebe · 22/09/2008 12:40

Yes, plead her case NOT suggest ways to put her partner in a no win situation where he's damned if he does use contraception (because she wants to get pregnant) and damned if he doesn't (because at this point he doesnt want another child)

LaDiDaDi · 17/10/2008 20:34

Ok, so dp said the other night "let's go for it then" meaning that he agreed to ttc.

I then had some sort of ridiculous fit of cold feet! I asked him why he agreed and he said "I know that I'll give in to you one day, it might as well be sooner rather than later!" I decided that I wanted to hear something more positive/give him a chance to back out if he really doesn't want to so we have agreed to start to ttc in the New Year! (Not entirely selfless on my part as I'm off work over Xmas and New year and so want to take the opportunity to indulge .

Very excited now! I will be on the baby name threads asking for the opinions of strangers soon, mark my words!

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