How do I stop nagging DH & being so uptight? (sorry bit of a rant!)

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I am fed up of nagging dh constantly. This morning is a good example. My daughter has dance lessons on Sat mornings, they start at 8.45 and we need to leave the house at 8.15 to get there on time. Last night dh said he would take my daughter as he wanted to go to the gym (meaning I could have a lie-in - a big relief as I'm a terrible sleeper!). I woke up at 8 (yes sods law, you get an opportunity to lie in and wake up anyway!), they were both up but I could hear no sign of movement. Went downstairs and found them both still in their PJs watching telly. Both DH and my daughter take ages to get ready so I knew that 15 mins was a push. I told them DH they didn't have a lot of time and that they needed to start getting ready or they'd be late.

I really need advice. I hate myself for nagging him all the time, but if I don't nothing gets done and we are often late for things. Half of me thinks I should have stayed in bed and left him to it, but the other half of me wanted to protect my daughter because I know that she'd have been really upset if they'd have been late.

What should I do? How do I let go of this feeling of having to control anything? Am I being too protective of my daughter? I'm always so uptight and it's doing my head in. As I'm typing this I am seething! Please help.

ShiteMum (I'm sure you are not!) that would drive me insane with anxiety! What does he say when you 'tell him off' about it?

Im the same. Im a REAL nag! Im awful for it. Im only 22
I get it from my mum. I always swore I wouldnt be like her!
Dp just puts up with it, but if it were the other way round, I wouldnt cope! He just keeps his mouth shut, and it makes me feel awful. If I could change one thing about me, that would be it.
HOWEVER ........I have started saying to him occasionally "Its up to you." "Do what you want."
And do you know what he says?
"Dont do that! I hate it when you say that! I need you to tell me!"

Shitemum and others, I completly agree, its really easy to say 'let him learn' but when you are talking about making sure your DS has a clean nappy in the bag, suncream on a blazing hot day etc you can't just let them walk out the door when you see it lying on the table forgotton.

I have to say DON'T do classes and stuff early on a weekend morning, even if you shared it, or took turns, it's very hard to commit to, it's a time when you just wanna chill. Unless you're pushy of course.

Good point blackthorn. Ds1 used to have swimming at 10 am Saturday mornings and it was a nightmare getting him and dh out the door. When we switched to 11:30 it became much easier

blackthorn, round here the only time the swimming baths isn't packed full of hyperactive teenagers at the weekend is 8.30am - 10am on sunday.
The ONLY suitable kids thing for toddlers and preschoolers on a saturday likewise starts at 9.30am. But I guess I could just let DS slump in front of a DVD all morning instead cos obviuosly getting out the door to do something is being pushy!

Could you take her and leave him to do whatever else needs doing? Take a newspaper... and relax while she does her class? It might be less stress in the end!

And I agree, slumping infront of a DVD all morning is NOT the way to go!