Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Sister-in-law controls and lies.

11 replies

LOVEMYMUM · 12/09/2008 23:27

Am very upset and angry. Had a lovely little girl end Feb 08 by c-section. My sister-in-law (DH's sister) said she couldn't come round cos her 30 year-old daughter would get jealous (She has her own 2 year-old girl.) My mother was chatting to the 30-year old girl who said that she wouldn't have been jealous at all! SIL is controlling and DH will take her side. DH and I were away for a few days cos he had a conference and I went with for a break (didn't enjoy it - missed my LO too much!). Got back last night. I told DH i wouldn't be making dinner tonight cos too busy unpacking etc, DH had dinner at his mother's house, I asked, wot about me, he assumed i would eat here, didn't even think to consider me. I've been diagnosed with PND (more like post-natal anger) and he won't come to counselling with me. Am wondering what i'm doing with him - am i only property to him?

OP posts:
Pria · 13/09/2008 00:15

All sounds pretty normal to me! Don't sound like property to him as he presumably he did offer opportunity of going on the break?

Original poster
LOVEMYMUM · 13/09/2008 00:32

Why is it normal for DH to take my in-laws side over mine. Shouldn't even be about sides?

OP posts:
Original poster
LOVEMYMUM · 13/09/2008 18:55

Bump.

OP posts:
FabioBigBangBlackHole · 13/09/2008 19:03

Fking cheek of dh to sod off to his mum's for dinner - why couldn't he make dinner while you unpacked/vice versa?

a man who runs back to mummy will a disappointing partner make imo

SIL may or may not have lied - poss the 30 year old lied to her. either way, most odd.

dh sounds like an arse, tbh.

go to your counselling sessions alone and see you can find a way to talk to him and show him what a disappointment he is being.

he needs to start acting like a man not a boy imo.

FabioBigBangBlackHole · 13/09/2008 19:08

And his behaviour is NOT normal at all, it's dismissive and imperious.
And if your property is precious, you treat it with care, no?

RubySlippers · 13/09/2008 19:10

i would be more concerned about your DH rather than your SIL

why "won't" he come to counselling

Original poster
LOVEMYMUM · 13/09/2008 19:31

He says he doesn't want to discuss our marital life in front of a stranger.

I lost my temper today and also cried. Am feeling a bit better now.

He couldn't unpack cos he had to go into the office for a few hours before having next week off.

OP posts:
RubySlippers · 13/09/2008 19:33

is the counselling for PND or is it marriage counselling?

TBH a man that left me to unpack, with no dinner whilst he swanned off to his mums would infuriate me

why didn't he make dinner for both of you whilst you unpacked?

Original poster
LOVEMYMUM · 13/09/2008 20:49

Counselling for PND - more like post-natal stress/distress.

He unpacked some but not all.

OP posts:
coppertop · 13/09/2008 21:01

If he had time to go to his mum's house for dinner then he had time to help you unpack IMHO. He could have ordered a takeaway for both of you.

He sounds selfish tbh.

Original poster
LOVEMYMUM · 13/09/2008 21:05

Selfish is correct coppertop.
He's good with dd but i do wonder what kind of person i've married.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page