I love dh and my two ds's. But dh works shifts and i find life at home 90% hard work and 10% of those fantastic proud loving moments. I get irritable because i never seem to get a good nights sleep without a tablet, so a lot of the time i'm snapping at dh. And i never want sex because most of the time i feel completely exhausted - although on the one or two occassions a month we do it it's fantastic. I know i love him and i want to spend the rest of my life with him - no worries there.
Except that sometimes I go out with the girls and i can't seem to not flirt - i think it's a wanting to be found attractive thing more than anything - I know dh does fancy me lots but it's like it's not enough. Last night i went to a works overnight do and had such a fantastic time with a guy i'd never met before. I knew he wasn't a 100% nice guy and there's no way i'd want to have a meaningful relationship but i was loving his attention - and was soooo horny . Too much to drink and i was really tempted to go with him back to his hotel room. Thank God i saw sense and didn't. But it's too close for comfort really - i would have felt so awful today if i had and it could have ruined my life (and the kids' childhoods). Needless to say it's not the first time I've been tempted, but i've never actually strayed.
Do you think it's safer not to drink? Not to flirt? I don't want to stop because I imagine - no I am - miserable company without the two. Just wondered if anyone else has the same dilemma?