dd's great-grandad was just at my door, and its with great sadness i relaised that dd's have no idea who he is

[misdee]

thank goodness they have a great relationship with my parents and peters parents.

my grandaprents are not involved in our lives or my sisters lives at all. they dont see us, we dont see them, unless soemthing 'forces' us to iykwim. my grandad was just at my door as he was doing door to door work with the jehovahs witnesses, other than that we dont see them at all.

did you talk to him ?

yes.

i do talk to them when i see them.

is there a reason for them not being in your lives ? It's great that your dcs have contact with their grandparents though. My ds was only 2 when my grandma died, the last remaining great grandparent - I often talk to him about her.

Can you tell us why they don't have involvement in your lives?

tbh i really dont know why anymore. they werenmt involved as we were growing up, and just never been there although live close. i used to take dd1 to see them when she was a baby, but always felt uncomfortable i na strange way.

were you the equivalent of ex-communicated for not being JW enough?

oh i am worldly twiglett

was never baptised, but when we were growing up my grandparents were disfellowshipped.

so did you invite him in or not? did he only want to talk about god or did he want to kindle a relatinship?

he was just doorknocking twiglett. they dont pop round for a cuppa, or for a chat.

he sat outside SGK house once in his car waiting for other JW's and wouldnt go into hers either.

my ds has no idea who his great grandparents are either.

DH's nan lives in a home and has severe clinical depression and refuses to communicate and has major panic attacks, so imo visiting would not be a wise move which is a shame as before she got ill she was lovely , and my nan I haven't seen for about three years.

I only vaguely remember my great grandmothers on both my mum and dad's side - my ggm on dad's side died when I was about 6 but on my mum's side she didn't die till I was a teenager and she was 97, but we only visited once a year and neither of them really "did" children so we were expected to be seen and not heard.

Have you talked to your parents about this?

yeah they know.

am just so glad that my girls are experiencing a reltionship witrh their grandparents that i never had.