Dh wants to go on a mountain biking weekend from Friday to Sunday and wants me to 'let' him go. I have prior plans for all of us (several weeks) involving a friend's bbq and a dance event that dd is doing (both on Saturday). Added to this, I'm feeling really rough, ds's sleep is going to pot and I look forward to the weekend when I can get a bit of support around the house and with the children (dh's sleep is not affected).
I won't 'let' him go because he isn't a child, I'm not his mother and he therefore doesn't need permission. Similarly, I will not tell him he isn't 'allowed' to go. I've explained to him why I would like him not to go but made it clear that the decision is his and I will stick by this. Admittedly, I won't be overly happy if he does go but I am prepared to accept his decision and will do the events planned on my own.
I'm also annoyed because he never takes time off for us to do things together but is able to take a full day off for this weekend if needed but this is irrelevant!
I hope this comes across the way I intend it to; I'm not entirely sure what I hope to achieve by asking this but opinions would be appreciated!