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[aibu2wantalittlefun]

obviously not my real name, for reasons that will become obvious.

I have been asked out, by someone I find incredibly attractive, who I have known for years, and I have said yes!

I dont feel bad??? I have a partner and 2 dc, my relationship has been abusive emotionally and physically for most of those years, he is aggresive, angry and a pig most days, I no longer give a monkeys, obviousliy.

But I am still in a relationship, so know this is not a good idea, but also know that my entire friends and family want me out of it.

My friend is married has no children and lives so far away i will probably not see him for another 10 years, and by this time next year my relationship will be over, of that I have no doubt, and I feel that If I dont see this man I will regret it for the rest of my life.

For him I cant speak, seems an ok relationship, there is no plans to have intimate relations, this will be drinks flirting and admiting yes there are feelings, no affair will take place he leaves very soon.

I know I am in the wrong but I think it will be ok, and to be honest I really want to see this man, and I wont see him again for years or ever, what do you think? I cant talk to my friends,Please feel free to say what you think, but also know this is not a regular occurence I have always been faithful and loving, I really think that my dp has just kicked every last drop of love out of me.

I know i know, jesus gets worse, just found my dp on internet chat rooms, Bichatrooms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And my friend has just emailed saying sorry he was wrong and he agrees with me, was silly. At least I havent lost a friend, but seems I have a queer fella!!!

Agree totally with..

Dump your dp NOW!

But don't get the attention you need from a married man.

Don't do to his wife what you wouldn't want done to yourself.

There are plenty of single men out there to have a little flirt with, you may even find the odd good one!

aibu. I think its for the best. Your feelings for this man sound so strong that either he wouldn't live up to your fantasy or one meeting wouldn't be enough and you'd end up getting hurt.
Leave your partner - for your dc's sake if not for yours then concentrate on getting yourself into the position where you will meet a nice available, non aggressive man who you deserve.

Dump the husband yes, but boy there seem to be a lot of Mary Whitehouse wannabees on here

Right have ceremoniously dumped the dp, bi chat is one step to far.

As for my friend I just rang him and I am going around at 9, will not sleep with him but I want to see him, and jesus after the day I have had why the fuck not!

Don't get out of a relationship because somebody else wants you to, do it because you want to. Take responsibility for your own actions.

No matter what you say, this is going to be cheating and it is going to look bad on you. Also remember that if it comes down to an acrimoneous break up of your marriage, your husband could use this against you.

more, i have dumped my partner because i have found him on a bi sexual web chat offering money for phone numbers, only this morning! I walked in and found him all flustered, he starts shaking and crying, i look at his computer and there he is chattin up people on the net and offering money for mens numbers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that is why i am leaving him, to much for even me to forgive.

Going by what you said about him earlier and your current situation with your p, I would say sleeping with him is inevitable. If you can live with that then not seeing him again that's up to you. Personally I couldn't do it.
Its not 'Mary Whitehouse' to point out right from wrong - too many people don't seem very clear on what that is these days.

I am finally taking responsibility for my life, saying this is to much, i dont want this, my life is one big drama, and my friend is that a friend, and in another lifetime maybe it would have been more, but he has been my friend for 30 or more years, we grew up together, we talk and i want to say goodbye to him.

Hey, good for you!!!!

Sorry you are having such a shit time but I'm sooo glad you've decided to meet your friend.
Have a really good time, have a flirt. It will make you feel much better about yourself if you meet him, it really will

So how did it go AIBU? Have a good time ?

It was wonderful! I spent time with my friend, we laughed and cried, he helped me and then I cried somemore, I will miss him.

I think we all have someone, and he is mine, a true friend that was to never be anymore, my heart is bruised but happy. x

Excellent.

Now you have to deal with the gorilla at home

lol, yep, dont think thats going to be as wonderful, big changes ahead, and for once I think it will be ok.

Thanks Kitty you were a breath of fresh air.

Thanks for all comments, and I stayed true to my word, nothing inappropriate went on, just fun and laughs, I am glad of that, although I would have liked a nice cuddle and a kiss but I had bloody mn in my ear, only joking, thank you ladies.